"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The boyfriend she "hates" still has her.

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Before i start: this is a drama post, and before an DJs say "Shes fvcking up, not worth it, NEXT her!" i know. I want the ass, my prize, for these 3 weeks of work.

This girl i met 3 weeks ago is absolutely infatuated with me. Shes scared to get too close to me because I got her obsessed with me in one night hahah [not really scared, but she is a pessimist].
But that night i also learned she has a boyfriend. I am NOT trying to break them up[ok, yes i am, but I'll explain]. She tells me she "Hates her boyfriend, but hes her bestfriend and she can't be a b!tch and break her best-friends heart." When she says hate i know she means "don't wnat ot be with him" lol.

But that was 3 weeks ago. And STILL she stays with him. So i came home[i've only seen her twice in 2 weeks, we were gonna chill today, but sh!t happened] and saw that she wrote "i love u" about him in her profile.

I basicly put my foot down and said "I gave you 3 weeks, you didn't end it, I guess there won't be a us." Now shes all sad and sh!t. I guess i'm kinda trying to nudge her into dumping the guy, finally.
As i don't want her to cheat on him, cheaters suck.

But then...if she doesn't cheat on him, fvck it, i still want soem punnany. But i don't know how to makeup for being pissed. shall i...just invite her to chill and pretend it never happened? Say "look, you have one day to end it with him. We can't be together in anyway if you're with him." When asked once, she said "eww, i would never hookup with him" in reference to her bf..or maybe i can talk to her sister[who i'm tight with]...
am i getting mind-fvcked?
help would be greatly appreciated.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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hmmm, tricky spot

at the risk of sounding unpopular, i'll say give her one night. make it clear, after tonight, thats it.

if she doesn't do it, move on
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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lol aight, fvck her.
i told her she had to do it tomorrow, and she gave me a list of excuses why she can't tomrrow and i sai d"aight, thsoe are bullshti excuses so i'm out. peace" and she got mad hahaha
 

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Originally posted by Patrick124
lol aight, fvck her.
i told her she had to do it tomorrow, and she gave me a list of excuses why she can't tomrrow and i sai d"aight, thsoe are bullshti excuses so i'm out. peace" and she got mad hahaha
exactly my point
 

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Originally posted by Patrick124
lol aight, fvck her.
i told her she had to do it tomorrow, and she gave me a list of excuses why she can't tomrrow and i sai d"aight, thsoe are bullshti excuses so i'm out. peace" and she got mad hahaha
case closed
next
 

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Originally posted by Fitch
Your GOOD; you should be a moderator!
i did learn from the best, after all.

quiet, they might be listening :eek:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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