Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
HER: “I have a boyfriend, just to let you know. No, really, I have a boyfriend.”
YOU: "That’s great. So does my girlfriend."
YOU: "That’s great. So does my girlfriend."
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
The boyfriend bomb
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
props (for quoting the source as well)drak_ool said:
nice reframe. I should read Roissy more often.
Megaman XIV
Senior Don Juan
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=134630
This is the longest thread on this topic and it needs to be merged with this and put in the archive!
This is the longest thread on this topic and it needs to be merged with this and put in the archive!
Andy_Dufresne
Senior Don Juan
Pre-empt the whole situation and ask "Hey, are you single?" within the first minute or two. This puts you in the driver's seat rather than her.
spinaroonie
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Great advice, not only it puts you in the driver seat, but also says "Go fuvk yourself if you want me as a friend. I only am interested in you romantically." Always ask. It will also show her interest in you.Andy_Dufresne said: