Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
HER: “I have a boyfriend, just to let you know. No, really, I have a boyfriend.”
YOU: "That’s great. So does my girlfriend."
YOU: "That’s great. So does my girlfriend."
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
The boyfriend bomb
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- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
props (for quoting the source as well)drak_ool said:
nice reframe. I should read Roissy more often.
Megaman XIV
Senior Don Juan
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=134630
This is the longest thread on this topic and it needs to be merged with this and put in the archive!
This is the longest thread on this topic and it needs to be merged with this and put in the archive!
Andy_Dufresne
Senior Don Juan
Pre-empt the whole situation and ask "Hey, are you single?" within the first minute or two. This puts you in the driver's seat rather than her.
spinaroonie
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Great advice, not only it puts you in the driver seat, but also says "Go fuvk yourself if you want me as a friend. I only am interested in you romantically." Always ask. It will also show her interest in you.Andy_Dufresne said: