Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
HER: “I have a boyfriend, just to let you know. No, really, I have a boyfriend.”
YOU: "That’s great. So does my girlfriend."
YOU: "That’s great. So does my girlfriend."
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
The boyfriend bomb
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
props (for quoting the source as well)drak_ool said:
nice reframe. I should read Roissy more often.
Megaman XIV
Senior Don Juan
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=134630
This is the longest thread on this topic and it needs to be merged with this and put in the archive!
This is the longest thread on this topic and it needs to be merged with this and put in the archive!
Andy_Dufresne
Senior Don Juan
Pre-empt the whole situation and ask "Hey, are you single?" within the first minute or two. This puts you in the driver's seat rather than her.
spinaroonie
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Great advice, not only it puts you in the driver seat, but also says "Go fuvk yourself if you want me as a friend. I only am interested in you romantically." Always ask. It will also show her interest in you.Andy_Dufresne said: