Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
The Boy with the Incredible Brain
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Create Reality
Master Don Juan
my calculator does it faster!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
there have been other people with the same calculating ability. numbers aren't that special to be honest.
what i find more fascinating is that they are using some kind of 'method' that they aren't even aware of to do these computations.
it kind of suggests to me that there is so much more to life than we realize. that there are 'methods' or 'schemas' of how 'things' relate to each other that we haven't even discovered yet.
the human mind is capable of amazing things...
http://youtube.com/watch?v=9ye2svGQy8w
http://youtube.com/watch?v=lkDMaJ-wZmQ
what i find more fascinating is that they are using some kind of 'method' that they aren't even aware of to do these computations.
it kind of suggests to me that there is so much more to life than we realize. that there are 'methods' or 'schemas' of how 'things' relate to each other that we haven't even discovered yet.
the human mind is capable of amazing things...
http://youtube.com/watch?v=9ye2svGQy8w
http://youtube.com/watch?v=lkDMaJ-wZmQ
whats amazing to me is that he isnt retarded in any other way like rain man or anything. just an ordinary guy with awesome abilities. like you could go get a drink and hang out with him. if he worked out he'd actually be good-looking.
I've heard of similar things that involve synethesia in people who have perfect pitch.
I found it hilarious that one person in the video got hit in the head with a baseball and then was able to remember the weather of everyday in his life.
I found it hilarious that one person in the video got hit in the head with a baseball and then was able to remember the weather of everyday in his life.
I feel sorry for Savants. They are brilliant in some areas but at the expense of others. It just proves that there is limit to how much information the human brain can maintain without losing other cognative abilities. Most would give up this gift just to be normal and live a normal life.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Create Reality
Master Don Juan
its just because they are too busy being intelligent.
Define Intelligents.Create Reality said:
Their brain either acts like a calculator or a storage memory, but when it comes to figuring out the secrets of the universe like Einstien or Hawking's then we have a problem.
Luthor Rex
Master Don Juan
It sounded like he was thinking-in-pictures, in which case he's probably either autistic or been touched by autism. That would explain why he can do his numbers trick.joekerr31 said:
There's a lot of people who think that there is an apparent link between autism and genius. Some PhD's and some Nobel Prize winners were autistic and have said they did what they did because of their autism and not in spite of it.
If you want to know more, check out a book called "Thinking in Pictures" by a woman with a PhD who is autistic. Also, Asperger's Syndrome is the type of High Functioning Autism most associated with genius.
FYI: It's pronounced "Asp-er-gers" and not "Azz-burger". It's named after the man who first wrote about it, and it's not an Azz-hamburger.
One woman who is a low-functioning autistic explained that for years she couldn't talk because she didn't realize the sounds she was hearing was someone trying to communicate with her.
If the genius-autism like is correct this also explains why most geniuses have been men: because more men get autism than women. Even without that, we do only have one X chromosome to defend us from mutation, and by it's very nature genius is statistically abnormal.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Luthor Rex
Master Don Juan
If autism is the source of his genius then the idea that he has 'lost' something isn't true. An autistic never had it to begin with.DJDamage said:
The research seems to indicate that brains come in different flavors. Did mint-chocolate chip ice cream somehow 'lose' its cherry flavor? No, mint-chocolate chip ice cream never tasted like cherry to start with. The same seems to be true of the various kinds of brains.
Which reminds me... you know all those genius / engineers out in Silicon Valley? Guess what, their kids have a higher rate of autism than the general population: http://www.wired.com/wired/archive/9.12/aspergers_pr.html
Luthor Rex
Master Don Juan
That's because of the mirror-neuron problem:Chaotixxx said:
http://www.apa.org/monitor/oct05/autism.html
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2005/04/050411204511.htm
Monkey see... monkey not do.
Jvesti
Master Don Juan
Nah, on an evolutionary survival level his mental skills are really pointless.Potbelly said:
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
Hmm, more proof of the power of visual thinking. I read a book on this once called the Einstein Factor, it taught a technique called image streaming that's supposed to develop visual thinking and increase IQ. I never really stuck with the method because I had other things on my plate, but perhaps I'll give it another shot over the Christmas break.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.