You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ROFL !!!!check that grill son.....
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
:rockon:Drum&Bass said:ROFL !!!!
Agreed. I think our brains are purposely limited to allow us to interact more easily. Ever notice how the most intelligent people are usually the most socially awkward?DJDamage said:I feel sorry for Savants. They are brilliant in some areas but at the expense of others. It just proves that there is limit to how much information the human brain can maintain without losing other cognative abilities. Most would give up this gift just to be normal and live a normal life.
Define Intelligents.Create Reality said:its just because they are too busy being intelligent.
It sounded like he was thinking-in-pictures, in which case he's probably either autistic or been touched by autism. That would explain why he can do his numbers trick.joekerr31 said:there have been other people with the same calculating ability. numbers aren't that special to be honest.
what i find more fascinating is that they are using some kind of 'method' that they aren't even aware of to do these computations.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
If autism is the source of his genius then the idea that he has 'lost' something isn't true. An autistic never had it to begin with.DJDamage said:I feel sorry for Savants. They are brilliant in some areas but at the expense of others. It just proves that there is limit to how much information the human brain can maintain without losing other cognative abilities. Most would give up this gift just to be normal and live a normal life.
The answer may be raining all over Silicon Valley. And one of the best hopes of finding a cure may be locked in the DNA sequences that produced the minds that have made this area the technological powerhouse of the world.
That's because of the mirror-neuron problem:Chaotixxx said:Agreed. I think our brains are purposely limited to allow us to interact more easily. Ever notice how the most intelligent people are usually the most socially awkward?
Nah, on an evolutionary survival level his mental skills are really pointless.Potbelly said:just watched it....amazing, the next level of evolution
dont you mean a IUD?amoka said:I can repeat the alphabets backward. The first time I tried it was when I got pulled over few weeks ago for DUI.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.