The Bored Sex - Women, more than men, tend to feel stultified by long-term exclusivity—despite having been taught that they were designed for it

[MatureDJ]

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/a...get-bored-sex-long-term-relationships/582736/

Womyn's desire is the c0ck carousel:

Many women want monogamy. It’s a cozy arrangement, and one our culture endorses, to put it mildly. But wanting monogamy isn’t the same as feeling desire in a long-term monogamous partnership. The psychiatrist and sexual-health practitioner Elisabeth Gordon told me that in her clinical experience, as in the data, women disproportionately present with lower sexual desire than their male partners of a year or more, and in the longer term as well.

 

[backseatjuan]

I can guarantee you this is because they are bored with their sex life in an LTR. Literally, sex is inside brain and requires seduction on man's part and desire on woman's part, and without that seduction there is no desire and sex in an LTR becomes a boring chore. In effect man's invention the LTR or marriage, the settling down, implies no more seduction on man's part is needed, and this kills woman's desire, and sex becomes boring. Once sex becomes boring, the love goes away, and she begins cheating.

One can often hear this repeating phrase from women: “You should have thought with your head, and not with that thing between your legs!” Yes, this phrase is loved by those women who put love at priority, recognize marriages only for love, and when love has passed, they say “no luck” and, without a second thought, break families and bail.

Have you ever wondered why women so often repeat the question: “Do you love me?” and why are they so often asked to prove the depth of their feelings? The fact is that love is that feelings between the pants. It is naked and natural instinct whose sole purpose is reproduction. The brain centers that are responsible for sexual desire, of which love is a part, are much deeper than the new cerebral cortex, which is responsible for logics and sanity:

In other words, love is an unconscious adherence to sexual desire. The mind of a man in love is almost completely disabled. He is not able to think critically and in general he is not able to anything rationally. Therefore, the question: “Do you love me?” Translated into male perspective: “Does your brain work or not?”

If a man declares that he loves, that is, that his brain is turned off, a woman often asks him to “prove his feelings,” that is, to perform actions that a man in his right mind and solid memory would never commit. This will be an indicator for her that client has matured – her mind is turned off, the blood is drained from the head and into the small pelvis, and the man can be turned as you please.

Once the process of divorce is completed, that is, the man is left without family, children and money, she can utter the scared phrase: “You had to think with your head, not with your penis! It is your fault!”

In layman terms such a scheme is called “fishing on live bait” or “so long sucker”. Who is to blame for being fooled? Only the man himself, a woman reminds him of this as soon as he tries to make any claims to her. Therefore, when interacting with a woman, it is more profitable for a man to always think with his head and in no circumstance to be led by a trick called love. On the contrary, it is beneficial for a woman to turn a man’s mind off, in order to compete with him on an equal level intellectually, in most cases she is not capable to think on same level a man can, therefore she uses this ancient natural mechanism to subordinate a man to herself and her will.

Question to women: what kind of men do you like the most – firm, self-confident, controlling their instincts and their lives or romantics, rushing into the pool with their heads, giving everything at the mercy of feelings?

Question to men: with what do you prefer to be guided in a relationship – mind or feelings?

 

[Who Dares Win]

Being cheated especially after your 30s is still a better option than overclocking your brain all life long only to court her as if it was the first week.
What the hell does it mean "you have to keep seducing her"...I'm not gonna live my life as a seller/solicitor/comedian 24/7 for something I already paid full price.

Women dont get how men operate, marriage means for a man "I put the money and the house and you put sex and loyalty", too bad men and women got it differently when it comes of such deal.

The more I grow older the more I believe you cant get a broken tool and make it work correctly no matter your commitment and effort, simply accept that its faulty and deal accordingly.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Being cheated especially after your 30s is still a better option than overclocking your brain all life long only to court her as if it was the first week.
What the hell does it mean "you have to keep seducing her"...I'm not gonna live my life as a seller/solicitor/comedian 24/7 for something I already paid full price.

Women dont get how men operate, marriage means for a man "I put the money and the house and you put sex and loyalty", too bad men and women got it differently when it comes of such deal.

The more I grow older the more I believe you cant get a broken tool and make it work correctly no matter your commitment and effort, simply accept that its faulty and deal accordingly.

Great post bro. So what´s your endgame? Never marry? Spin plates for life and never have kids? Have kids without getting married?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Why is it any different for men? Can any one woman possibly satisfy male sexual desire?

Yes one woman can satisfy it. It depends on the man. If he has a addiction to the "new" he will always get bored and find something new. Everyone isnt like that.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

We already talked about this. Every man wants to fvck other women, he is just CONTENT not to. Women are the same.

I dont want the hassle. If i have good puzzy at home im good. I dont need to switch it up. Besides her catchers mit is formed and aligned to me. I like that. I know most are not like that. But. IRL im better keep my game to where i can fvck others at a moments notice. Women need to know that.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Great post bro. So what´s your endgame? Never marry? Spin plates for life and never have kids? Have kids without getting married?

Spinning plates with low commitment or low commitment long term with an escape plan ready to be executed fast and unannounced.

Needless to say its mandatory to cover your ass legally and financially while never fully commit mentally.

I woule be fine in divorcing as long as there are kids in the middle and money go to them, its a worthy cost since its your offspring and someone is caring about them fulltime while you are free to purse your goals...clearly no man is allowed to move there and be "the new dad".

 

[zekko]

Just because a woman is bored with monogamy, that doesn't mean she's going to be happy riding the carousel. She'll find a way to be dissatisfied either way (generally speaking, of course).

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Just because a woman is bored with monogamy, that doesn't mean she's going to be happy riding the carousel. She'll find a way to be dissatisfied either way (generally speaking, of course).

So so true

 

[Who Dares Win]

Just because a woman is bored with monogamy, that doesn't mean she's going to be happy riding the carousel. She'll find a way to be dissatisfied either way (generally speaking, of course).

Not to sounds lame but if something has wheels or bleeds once a month, sooner or later...you know

 

[AJ84]

Spinning plates with low commitment or low commitment long term with an escape plan ready to be executed fast and unannounced.

Needless to say its mandatory to cover your ass legally and financially while never fully commit mentally.

I woule be fine in divorcing as long as there are kids in the middle and money go to them, its a worthy cost since its your offspring and someone is caring about them fulltime while you are free to purse your goals...clearly no man is allowed to move there and be "the new dad".

If you divorce and she’s caring for the kids full time while you off free pursuing your goals how involved would you be with your children?
Understandably you would want to know who is around your children, which goes both ways. That’s why it’s important for separated parents to be actively involved in their kids lives and know who is around them. If you’re off doing whatever, less likely you will be in the loop.

Best way to prevent someone from being the ‘new dad’ is to actually be a present dad who is actively taking part in raising them. Kids need their fathers to be present and not just occasional weekend babysitters. It’s too bad family court doesn’t seem to recognize that, but that’s another topic.

Also you can’t legally prevent a divorced woman from remarrying, or living with another man. And if you are leaving her, it’s doubtful she will abide by some rule about not allowing a man moving in, esp is she is the one caring for them full time, as you are proposing.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

The boring sex gets bored... love the irony

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The boring sex gets bored... love the irony

Even if you dance like Chris Brown or a comedian shell get bored.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Even if you dance like Chris Brown or a comedian shell get bored.

Exactly had this conversation with my friend awhile back. You could be the funniest guy ever, best fighter, best rapper most romantic scientist it doesn't matter women will get bored. I'm not no women's clown and like the poster said I'm not frying my brain for this crap. I'm not bitter it's my truth at the moment. Talking to women is absolutely boring. Only women I find funny are black women

 

[lizardking82]

I promise you guys that if she knows you're in demand and wanted, chances of her cheating on you will lower quite some. Nothing is certain/sure in life, that's we discuss. But as the great Patrice O'Neal said "A good relationship is one where the woman is just a LITTLE BIT insecure". Keep your woman never secure that she has, show her boundaries and "Haya karate!" her everytime she tries to break them and if you got yourself a feminine, submissive woman and you're doing better and better in life...chances she'll cheat on you go low as fack.

 

[Ranger]

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/a...get-bored-sex-long-term-relationships/582736/

Womyn's desire is the c0ck carousel:

I find this a bit disturbing as it centers on men as not quite functional and the one that needs pleases is the woman. I wonder what she thinks about a good kick to the curb?
This concept of constant seduction is impossible and incredibly dishonest.
Women have never been monogamous. Those theories have been proven false over and over.

Yeah let’s let the mental health industry jump in on how men have to please women some more. Let’s see if we can go ahead and let them ride the carousel and be ok with it. I’m cool with that. Just not on my production and resources. Go wear them holes out. Lol. Before long you will just be a worn out hag. I will be summitting Mt Everest. Have fun. Lol

 

[PeasantPlayer]

I find this a bit disturbing as it centers on men as not quite functional and the one that needs pleases is the woman. I wonder what she thinks about a good kick to the curb?
This concept of constant seduction is impossible and incredibly dishonest.
Women have never been monogamous. Those theories have been proven false over and over.

Yeah let’s let the mental health industry jump in on how men have to please women some more. Let’s see if we can go ahead and let them ride the carousel and be ok with it. I’m cool with that. Just not on my production and resources. Go wear them holes out. Lol. Before long you will just be a worn out hag. I will be summitting Mt Everest. Have fun. Lol

For real

 

[zekko]

Today's despicable wh0res may crave the c0ck carousel.
But I think women's most natural inclination is probably serial monogamy.

 

[logicallefty]

Had a convo related to this with my GF just last night. We were on the conversation about general cheating after she was talking about wanting to see a guy friend and giving me the whole “you have nothing to worry about” speech. I set the playing field rules straight. I told her “look if you ever have the desire to get with other men just leave me. Don’t feel obligated to stay with me like a charity case because you don’t want to break my heart. Trust me I will be fine! I’ll be sleeping with other women just as fast as you other men” I also told her she could have her cake and eat it too, That if she ever wanted to downgrade to an open relationship or FWBs I’d be good with that as well. She said she couldn’t believe my nonchalant attitude about our relationship. She asked me if I had other women that I wanted to see. I told her “ no, but I wont lie, I do have a bullpen I’m just not actively warming it up right now. My bullpen is on long term break “ So now she knows. No need to cheat. Or if she wants to have her cake and eat it too she can, but the catch is, so will I.

 

[SoSuave666]

Had a convo related to this with my GF just last night. We were on the conversation about general cheating after she was talking about wanting to see a guy friend and giving me the whole “you have nothing to worry about” speech. I set the playing field rules straight. I told her “look if you ever have the desire to get with other men just leave me. Don’t feel obligated to stay with me like a charity case because you don’t want to break my heart. Trust me I will be fine! I’ll be sleeping with other women just as fast as you other men” I also told her she could have her cake and eat it too, That if she ever wanted to downgrade to an open relationship or FWBs I’d be good with that as well. She said she couldn’t believe my nonchalant attitude about our relationship. She asked me if I had other women that I wanted to see. I told her “ no, but I wont lie, I do have a bullpen I’m just not actively warming it up right now. My bullpen is on long term break “ So now she knows. No need to cheat. Or if she wants to have her cake and eat it too she can, but the catch is, so will I.

I would never have said any of this, honestly. Women know high value men, they don't need to be told it. All you did was probably make her insecure which will lower attraction. Or you may have come off as overtly communicating value. Either way, not great imo. Im sure you do have a bullpen, but you don't need to tell her about it.

Seeing women flirt with you in public = raise attraction
Telling a woman you have a bullpen = lower attraction

The only thing I may have said is the whole downgrade to fwb. "hey baby you wanna downgrade to fwb I'm cool with that." Shows confidence and abundance. But straight up telling her you have other options...well if she already knows you do it doesn't come off how you think it does.