"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Book That Launched The Seduction Community (Free copy at link)

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http://www.toosmarttofail.com/29reasons.pdf

My latest book is also free on the site, but you'll have to dig for it. HINT: it's similar in title to my username here.

It's called "29 Reasons Not To Be A Nice Guy."

Note the copyright on the book: 1999 (April 1, 1999 I believe).

This was the first time the term PIVOT was used. Prior to that it had been called "Friendly Fox" in my previous work (Outfoxing The Foxes).

It also captures, in fictitious post format, the flavor of the original ASF newsgroup in 1998-1999, before the commercial forces took over the "community," moved it to censored web environments, and the audience never questioned the wisdom of buying stuff from websites that did not allow free speech. USENET was not good for these people, because they couldn't exclude/silence competitors, or silence dissent. I was doing fine in this environment.

Too fine, as it turns out. Guys who bought my $30.00 books were getting laidk, and suddenly didn't need high-priced bootcamps or seminars.

Fast forward to today, and Big Media took over, stole most of the content, and the status-addicted GAMMA males in the "community" gravitate to them like an HB to an abusive jerk. Very telling.

Telling the audience to open its mind again would be futile, since the forum censors will "protect them from themselves" and not even expose them to such "trolling." How sad.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You're the one who wrote that? It's an honor to meet you! I downloaded The Seduction Library years ago and had read your books way back then (this was around 2002 I believe). It was very helpful to me when I was still learning, and I always wondered who wrote these.

I still have them on CD-ROM and occasionally re-read them. The most memorable thing I read was in the Player's Glossary regarding Bible chicks:

What do you do when Jesus is her man? Not to worry! As the players of ASF will tell you, bible chicks are among the easiest to seduce, because they have repressed their sexual desires in the name of religion, and are often craving an outlet, but torn between their commitment to their religion and their desire to fulfill their desires.
 

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Started to read the first page that had text.

I'm just appalled at the sameness of it.

Even on just this site, you'll find basically the same paragraph slightly reworded in more than one place.

How much this community has "changed"...
 

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RAY!!!

Is that you!!!

And if it is, you know better than to claim you started this community : )

The community actually started a few years earlier on soc.singles. The mods there basically got tired of "us", and then A.S.F. was created, then formhandle's site, so on and so forth.

Seems like only yesterday I was 16 and jumping out of project windows after chasing ass. Now I'm 30 and I even own a boat! I'm on a boat nigga lol
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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