"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The BEST way to drop a plate.

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I personally stop responding and cut contact physically and digitally.

The moment I do that, I get a sinking feeling of losing out on pvssy but I compose myself by knowing that there are lot more fish in the sea.


How do you guys drop a plate that's continuously exhibiting bad behaviour as the ultimate step?
What is your mindset when you do that?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I personally stop responding and cut contact physically and digitally.

The moment I do that, I get a sinking feeling of losing out on pvssy but I compose myself by knowing that there are lot more fish in the sea.


How do you guys drop a plate that's continuously exhibiting bad behaviour as the ultimate step?
What is your mindset when you do that?
What would you do if it's a guy friend doing you like that?
 

darksprezzatura

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What would you do if it's a guy friend doing you like that?
Since when do guy friends flake on us, make plans and cancel without rescheduling, keep rescheduling and don't turn up? And if they do, you know what we do.
 

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The moment I do that, I get a sinking feeling of losing out on pvssy but I compose myself by knowing that there are lot more fish in the sea.
I think it's a case of don't chase 'em, replace 'em. Most of the time I have a harem with so many options that one girl is kind of a "meh" situation no matter how cute she is. Know deep inside that you can get the same kind of girl again or better.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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As long as you keep it casual, then all you do is stop asking them out. The only time it becomes a problem is when they start stalking you and starts contacting you non-stop. The you just be direct and honest. But when you have enough experience with women you get really good at sniffing out potential stalkers then you never ask them out.
 

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guess the same as anyone, I start to be busy everyday they ask me to hang out
 

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Unless it's some flaky bytch who's been giving me the runaround, I'll let them know I'm done with them. I'll just send them a simple text like "I'm done with you, take care" and then I won't respond to their follow up bull5hit, if there is any.
What's hilarious is that there's always some follow up bull**** in every such situation to keep us in the loop.
 

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I wouldnt be so direct as to burn a bridge. You will never have enough booty calls in your phone that will answer when you text them.

Just tell her that you dont have time to see HER right now but you would like to periodically stay in touch. If she goes nuts, then who cares if you burn the bridge. If she is sort of cool with it, hit her up on occasion to stay in contact. She will make a great pinch hitter if you get flaked on one Friday night lol.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Why all the hostility ? Just tell them it's not working out. Followed by minimum contact.
 

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I wouldnt be so direct as to burn a bridge. You will never have enough booty calls in your phone that will answer when you text them.

Just tell her that you dont have time to see HER right now but you would like to periodically stay in touch. If she goes nuts, then who cares if you burn the bridge. If she is sort of cool with it, hit her up on occasion to stay in contact. She will make a great pinch hitter if you get flaked on one Friday night lol.
Right. Who knows what is going to happen tomorrow? I agree that there's nothing wrong on having choices...
 

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I personally stop responding and cut contact physically and digitally.

The moment I do that, I get a sinking feeling of losing out on pvssy but I compose myself by knowing that there are lot more fish in the sea.


How do you guys drop a plate that's continuously exhibiting bad behaviour as the ultimate step?
What is your mindset when you do that?
If they are badly behaved, I don't give a fck about the sex. I've had enough female drama in my life and don't tolerate anymore. Next.

If they are well behaved, I let them down gently. People who don't deserve ghosting shouldn't be ghosted. The bigger man tells it like it is and moves on. @ss holes and decent people alike, deserve to be treated accordingly; just because one person treats you like dirt, doesn't have to translate to you treating the next person the same way.
 

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If they are badly behaved, I don't give a fck about the sex. I've had enough female drama in my life and don't tolerate anymore. Next.

If they are well behaved, I let them down gently. People who don't deserve ghosting shouldn't be ghosted. The bigger man tells it like it is and moves on. @ss holes and decent people alike, deserve to be treated accordingly; just because one person treats you like dirt, doesn't have to translate to you treating the next person the same way.
Our perception of their behaviour has potential to be clouded by lust filled glasses. The only way to to stay unbiased is to keep spinning, comparing and choosing and letting the plates break as they wish.
 
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