The Best Advice Regarding Girls and Friendships

[D_Master]

This is advice that I wish I had known several years ago regarding being friends with girls. I have seen several topics on this subject where people will say be friends with a girl and maybe she has hot friends, etc, etc. That isn't being friends with her, thats using her. What I'm talking about is actually being friends where you care about this girl. What I had heard and in the back of my mind was that guys and girls CAN'T BE FRIENDS IN THE LONG-TERM. My advice to you is don't even play that friendship game, with the hopes she will fall for you. You may get lucky and she will, but she more than likely won't and will end up in the long term not talking to you at all. From what I've experienced, girls like to have guys as friends to fall back to, to stroke their little egoes when things fall through with their boyfriends. Then they will act like they care, then they will be your friend. However, in case you don't know, the minute someone cones along that they like they kick ya to the curb.
Don't bother playing that song and dance game with girls. They may say they "love you like a brother" but what they mean is "they think of you as someone they don't want to have sex with." They don't "love you", you are there to give her attention when no other guy will. Get off playing that game and develop better friendships with guys. You don't get anything from a friendship with a girl that you can't get with a guy and its a hell of a lot less complicated.
Rant over, just trying to help other guys out, I learned the hard way.

 

[christz]

sooo i'm assumeing you got burned by a chick that LJBF'ed you.. look its one thing to "be friends" with a girl and another to "beeee friends" with a girl what's the difference?

A straight friend that's a chick gets a call from me every few days, weeks or whatever maybe there's something going on and i'm bored.

a "friend" is a girl that you've had something with in the past, and just put her on the backburner and keep takeing her off periodiclly keeping it sexual the entire time. As long as you keep it sexual with your "friend" you will never truely fall into the Pit of Total friend/emotional tampon

that's the gist of how things go when you wanna be friends with a chick.

 

[banGbro]

Empax!


IMO, difference between a prospect and female friend is that you keep advancing with a prospect, with a friend youre at a flirt platau. Bones is a good example (Thrsdays on Fox).


If you were LJBFed, thats not a friend, and if you have a friendship like that then youre an Empax! The way to be friends with a girl is to LJBF her.

 

[D_Master]

Yeah I only wish it was "let's just be friends". To be honest I did like her, but she was more like a sister to me and I truly did care about her and want to see her do good, so if we never went out it wasn't going to hurt me. We texted back and forth several times a week and hung out about once or twice a month. I was friends with her and her family and she would often times say she "loved me like a brother" and valued my "friendship. You know I wanted more, but i enjoyed the time i had and began to almost think of her as another of my guy friends. Well her boyfriend didn't like it so much and told me to "F*** off" 1 day texting me from her phone and she doesn't talk to me anymore. Shoot I have girls I message online or talk to when I see from work or school, but what I was talking about I guess is having a friendship where you really care about them, you'll get burned because it won't last over time.

 

[banGbro]

D, it didnt last because you were exclusive to her, AFCing, mmmmm, needy ass.

 

[Dannyrt34]

The opposite of LJBF is FBJL

FBJL means that you got ****ed, *******, and then you had lunch.

 

[burntboy]

need help!!

This is advice that I wish I had known several years ago regarding being friends with girls. I have seen several topics on this subject where people will say be friends with a girl and maybe she has hot friends, etc, etc. That isn't being friends with her, thats using her. What I'm talking about is actually being friends where you care about this girl. What I had heard and in the back of my mind was that guys and girls CAN'T BE FRIENDS IN THE LONG-TERM. My advice to you is don't even play that friendship game, with the hopes she will fall for you. You may get lucky and she will, but she more than likely won't and will end up in the long term not talking to you at all. From what I've experienced, girls like to have guys as friends to fall back to, to stroke their little egoes when things fall through with their boyfriends. Then they will act like they care, then they will be your friend. However, in case you don't know, the minute someone cones along that they like they kick ya to the curb.
Don't bother playing that song and dance game with girls. They may say they "love you like a brother" but what they mean is "they think of you as someone they don't want to have sex with." They don't "love you", you are there to give her attention when no other guy will. Get off playing that game and develop better friendships with guys. You don't get anything from a friendship with a girl that you can't get with a guy and its a hell of a lot less complicated.
Rant over, just trying to help other guys out, I learned the hard way.

hey man i need UR help for my fist kiss plz. and i got all these problems right now all these girls want me to kiss them but i only want to kiss the one I like (my gf ofcource) so ya tell me all ur advice.

 

[burntboy]

need help!!

This is advice that I wish I had known several years ago regarding being friends with girls. I have seen several topics on this subject where people will say be friends with a girl and maybe she has hot friends, etc, etc. That isn't being friends with her, thats using her. What I'm talking about is actually being friends where you care about this girl. What I had heard and in the back of my mind was that guys and girls CAN'T BE FRIENDS IN THE LONG-TERM. My advice to you is don't even play that friendship game, with the hopes she will fall for you. You may get lucky and she will, but she more than likely won't and will end up in the long term not talking to you at all. From what I've experienced, girls like to have guys as friends to fall back to, to stroke their little egoes when things fall through with their boyfriends. Then they will act like they care, then they will be your friend. However, in case you don't know, the minute someone cones along that they like they kick ya to the curb.
Don't bother playing that song and dance game with girls. They may say they "love you like a brother" but what they mean is "they think of you as someone they don't want to have sex with." They don't "love you", you are there to give her attention when no other guy will. Get off playing that game and develop better friendships with guys. You don't get anything from a friendship with a girl that you can't get with a guy and its a hell of a lot less complicated.
Rant over, just trying to help other guys out, I learned the hard way.

hey man i need UR help for my fist kiss plz. and i got all these problems right now all these girls want me to kiss them but i only want to kiss the one I like (my gf ofcource) so ya tell me all ur advice.:woo:

 

[burntboy]

need help!!

This is advice that I wish I had known several years ago regarding being friends with girls. I have seen several topics on this subject where people will say be friends with a girl and maybe she has hot friends, etc, etc. That isn't being friends with her, thats using her. What I'm talking about is actually being friends where you care about this girl. What I had heard and in the back of my mind was that guys and girls CAN'T BE FRIENDS IN THE LONG-TERM. My advice to you is don't even play that friendship game, with the hopes she will fall for you. You may get lucky and she will, but she more than likely won't and will end up in the long term not talking to you at all. From what I've experienced, girls like to have guys as friends to fall back to, to stroke their little egoes when things fall through with their boyfriends. Then they will act like they care, then they will be your friend. However, in case you don't know, the minute someone cones along that they like they kick ya to the curb.
Don't bother playing that song and dance game with girls. They may say they "love you like a brother" but what they mean is "they think of you as someone they don't want to have sex with." They don't "love you", you are there to give her attention when no other guy will. Get off playing that game and develop better friendships with guys. You don't get anything from a friendship with a girl that you can't get with a guy and its a hell of a lot less complicated.
Rant over, just trying to help other guys out, I learned the hard way.

hey man i need UR help. and i got all these problems right now all these girls want me to kiss them but i only want to kiss the one I like (my gf ofcource) so ya tell me all ur advice.:woo:

 

[reset]

You can be friends with a girl if you have absolutely no desire to have sex with them. Otherwise, you're being a phony. You're most likely "friends" with the hope that SHE'LL choose for you to be "more than friends" down the road.
So in the end, you're not talking about friendship at all.