I've read about these neg hits of yours and it got me thinking about an ability I already have. I'm the king of back handed complements. I can you how great you look but you also look like crack hoe. If my friend broke up with his girlfriend I could say something like "You can do way better then that ugly b1tch. Besides you two would have horrible looking kids." That's an extreme example but would something not as harsh work well as a neg hit?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The Back Handed complement
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Hollowpoint
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That's pretty funny actually.
Remember, it's all in how you say it.
I'd say that with a big grin on my face.
Remember, it's all in how you say it.
I'd say that with a big grin on my face.
wjh
Master Don Juan
from tom leykis:
"i love thick girls" - that's pretty subtle, no girl WANTS to be 'thick' (i.e., chubby), society places the most value on a thin/lean girl but because you said you LOVE thick girls, you're golden...
"i love thick girls" - that's pretty subtle, no girl WANTS to be 'thick' (i.e., chubby), society places the most value on a thin/lean girl but because you said you LOVE thick girls, you're golden...
So Many Ways
Master Don Juan
One of my friends have this phrase we use to describe women, "She has the body of a goddess and a face to protect it with". Anyway I used that phrase around one of my other friends so he thought it would be cool to tell his girlfriend that.
My friend who is a natural uses them all the time.
My friend who is a natural uses them all the time.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
So Many Ways
Master Don Juan
My friend that coined the phrase doesn't actually say it to a woman's face but one of my buddies said it to his beautiful Argintinian girlfriend.