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The alpha male quid pro quo

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The most important rule when interacting with women is the alpha male quid pro quo, which basically says that you should only do things for women after they do something meaningfully equivalent for you FIRST.

This goes for anything: texting, buying them things, paying them attention, meeting them places, even looking at them. Humans evolved to view relationships in terms of reciprocal transactions, and women can subconsciously sense when you are doing things for them they do not deserve. When a woman senses you are doing too much for her, she feels an aversion to you because she feels like she has incurred a debt she needs to replay. Humans subconsciously know on some deep level that nobody does anything for free, so when she sees you do a bunch of stuff for her, she subconsciously knows you want something from her. Furthermore, in the tribal dominance hierarchy, the beta does stuff for the alpha FIRST, and then the alpha reciprocates, so if you do things for her FIRST she will subconciously identify you as the beta.

This is all subconscious. In her conscious, rational mind women will always say that they like it when men do things for them. Women will say "I want a guy to text me every day, take me to nice dinners, buy me things, etc." These women often do not realize that these very actions will make the guy look unattractive to her because they flip that switch in her subconscious brain that identifies him as a beta.

Because women outwardly and consciously will continue to pressure you to do things for them they do not deserve, implementing the alpha male quid pro is difficult in practice. You will constantly want to make exceptions to make her happy (or more accurately, make her conscious mind happy). And you cannot openly say to her "you do not deserve this yet" - you will look like a jerk - so you need to use your charm and charisma to do implement this rule without looking like you are playing games.
 

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Two things:

1. There is no conscious, "rational" mind in women. They are creatures of emotion; treat them as such. The worst a man can do is try to argue with women with rational logic. In the heat of an argument, a woman is in her primal, emotional state. Do not go back and forth with them because they are experts at the irrational and emotional; you may win the argument but at the cost of your frame. Don't do it.

2. Quid Pro Quo is NOT difficult to practice...you MUST practice it. Coming off as a jerk will reap you many more rewards than not, so don't worry about it. You are a man. Be direct, concise, and unwavering.
 

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Women will say "I want a guy to text me every day, take me to nice dinners, buy me things, etc."
This is disqualifying talk. Any woman who talks like that is a worthless parasite who doesn't deserve to be with a man who has half a brain.
 

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This is disqualifying talk. Any woman who talks like that is a worthless parasite who doesn't deserve to be with a man who has half a brain.
That's retarded. Lots of women talk like this. You just have to disregard their crazy talk. If you start disqualifying women just because they **** tested you, you will end up with nobody left.
 

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That's retarded. Lots of women talk like this. You just have to disregard their crazy talk. If you start disqualifying women just because they **** tested you, you will end up with nobody left.
I gotta admit **** tests turn me off too. Not been able to get to the place where I can handle them without wanting to next the girl
 

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Always be asking women in your life to do things for you. Just the favor matters, not the amount, no difference at all. "Got a quarter?" "Can you scratch my back? Right there?" "You got a pen handy? Piece of paper?" "Can you text me info about X you were talking about?" "Anything good on the news today?" "Anything new decent on Netflix?" "Is this belt good with this outfit?" "Got any gum?" Thousands of possibilities.

Do this to all women, you will be amazed at how they become more compliant and attracted to you in time. Then that primes the pump for your "appreciation." "Have I told you today how much I appreciate you?" You control the validation and qualification then regardless that it is based on the most trivial things. Men who are scared of them never ask for such, so you are also increasing masculine frame and dominance with every ask, making women more submissive to the men who are "squeaky wheels" asking. She wants to serve a husband/man one day, feed that desire.

"Attraction" and "submission" are completely synonymous with women.
 

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Always be asking women in your life to do things for you. Just the favor matters, not the amount, no difference at all.

Do this to all women, you will be amazed at how they become more compliant and attracted to you in time.

You control the validation and qualification then regardless that it is based on the most trivial things. Men who are scared of them never ask for such, so you are also increasing masculine frame and dominance with every ask, making women more submissive to the men who are "squeaky wheels" asking. She wants to serve a husband/man one day, feed that desire.

"Attraction" and "submission" are completely synonymous with women.
This is HUGE for any guys that have the "nice guy" mentality. They should all adopt this approach especially IMO.
 

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I gotta admit **** tests turn me off too. Not been able to get to the place where I can handle them without wanting to next the girl
You gotta look at it like it is fun and a game and not take it personally.

You have to remember: "women don't mean most of the **** they say." So if she says something ****ed up or rude, that is her subconscious testing you, not a rational decision she made.
 

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You gotta look at it like it is fun and a game and not take it personally.

You have to remember: "women don't mean most of the **** they say." So if she says something ****ed up or rude, that is her subconscious testing you, not a rational decision she made.
Yeah I know that logically but emotionally it makes my d!ck shrivel up.
 

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Don't do things for a woman that you wouldn't do for your elderly grandma. If you're ever stuck in a situation where you HAVE to do something to help a woman out before she's given you anything, it has to be seen as completely unconditional and not wanting anything in return. If you have even the slightest inkling of expecting something in return, the woman will sniff it out and you're a beta in her mind all of a sudden.

Your kind actions have to be very matter-of-factly. It's easy to tell when people are being kind out of inferiority or as a means to some kind of end.
 
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