"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The aftermath of a really good date... What next?

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So I met this chick online (girl #1), we went to play pool yesterday, we hit it off real well... We actually ended up playing for about 4h before we realized what time it was.

When we left I walked her back home and we ended up making out in front of her porch (I know, typical Hollywood movie, right!? Makes me sick too)

Now here's the thing: Since I actually started getting into the dating scene, she's the only girl I've met that I don't want to **** up things. Prior girls I didn't mind if things didn't work out, or if I ended up sleeping with them and nothing more, but she's cool, I want to see if she can keep this up or if it was only a good first date impression.

I was supposed to have another girl (girl #2) that I slept with at my house on Sunday to cook for her (I'm vegan, I always get asked that, it's inevitable hahah), but all of a sudden I'm not too interested in that... Sex is fairly easy to get, but quality girls are rarer. Should I simply cancel with girl #2 and invite girl #1 instead, or would it be too soon considering I saw her yesterday? I'm out of town from Tuesday to Friday so I'd rather act before.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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No don't cancel...don't fvck this up by focusing too much on one girl at first until at least after u have banged her a few times...you will get oneitis and lose your edge.
 
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You're thinking about exclusivity after one date? No, I don't think so!

Always keep your other options open until it is clear that both you and Girl #1 want to become exclusive.

Remember, if she's also trying to make a good impression, she will be reinforcing her good points and trying to hide the bad ones.
Take your time, find out if she really does tick enough of your boxes.
 
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Well I'm seeing girl #3 on Wednesday, so i'm not putting all my eggs in one basket, but I see what you guys mean, good point!

Thanks!
 
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A good first date with a girl you met online means absolutely nothing. Half the time you'll never see them again no matter how well you think it went. Carry on like normal.. I promise she isn't signing away her other options just for you either.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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