When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
sometimes even djuans lose their confidence, they get hit and they need to get reanimated, they need some wise words, some words that keep 'em on track. everyone is vulnerable, everyone loses their mind once in a while and commit mistakes. if u wanna ban afcs do so and keep us in ignorance or made us a favour oh master djs and enlighten us with your wisdom.
The way the forum should operate is like this:Originally posted by The_Shezzler
AMEN
BAN THE AFC
WHO IS WITH ME!!!!????
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This is the problem right here. Until there's a solution to this, nothing's going to change. Until there's a way to move an AFC to run these two down, rip them apart, and bathe in their blood, he's going to stay an AFC.Originally posted by The_Shezzler
Lazy and Scared
thats easy, he gets his woman to hold it for him while he stands and smokes a cigarOriginally posted by Porky
does a real DJ sit down or stand up to pee?
good old idealism...Originally posted by aftershock
Good points Shezz.
The way the forum should operate is like this:
- A few master DJs posting with a wealth of knowledge
- Many others who are DJs and capable
- Some reforming AFCs who know some stuff, but still need a kick up the arse
- A few AFCs who just found the site
They should progress up the ladder so to speak. I don't mind a few AFC questions, as us DJs should help the lesser beings, to help them become DJs, and then in turn they can help etc. If AFCs are the minority, then they will in turn become DJs.
But I agree that there are too many AFCs to operate like I've said above. It's sad.
I've just thought of a proposal that I'll put in a new thread...
explain what it meansIt is not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it is because we do not dare that they are difficult.