Yesterday, i realized what a huge advantage we have over most men. I've always known it, but it didn't really sink in until yesterday, when i got a very clear, vivid image of what that advantage translates into in real life. I was having Korean at a restaurant with a buddy of mine, when i decided to call up a girl. Long story said, she ended up pissing me off and i hung up on her. I took a deep breath, gave my friend a pat on the back, said "wish me luck buddy," got up, walked all the way to the other end of the restaurant, stopped beside a gorgeous Indian girl who was sitting at one of the tables and asked if i could join her. Its funny how she was watching me walk in her direction and acting completely disinterested, yet completely lit up the moment she realized i was actually there for her. The transformation was magnificent to watch. The ability to do things like that is our advantage. That's power. Thirty seconds after one girl acts in a way that displeases us, we've got the option of having her replaced with a beautiful 27-year-old law student.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The advantage
- Thread starter Krassus
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
thefonz
Master Don Juan
one day, maybe not today, maybe not tomorra......I too shall possess this ability krassus has described to us
why?but you can't do this in the longer run.
dearsappho
Senior Don Juan
DrSousuave is a compulsive negative poster. Pay no attention.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
check_mate_kid_uk
Master Don Juan
maybe she wont light up like the first time she saw him but if he has a postive aura and makes people feel good about themselves then it practicly works in the same way on the long run.
thefonz
Master Don Juan
He's taken over in Giovanni Cassanova's absenseOriginally posted by dearsappho
DrSousuave is a compulsive negative poster. Pay no attention.
alphawolfx
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i actually don't mind drsosuave, i don't buy into his frame, i know what's up with my life, even if he wants to put it on a negative spin...
but i'm not sure the other guys at sosuave will have as strong a frame as me, so they should probably put drsosuave on their "ignore" list, so they won't even SEE his posts.
but i'm not sure the other guys at sosuave will have as strong a frame as me, so they should probably put drsosuave on their "ignore" list, so they won't even SEE his posts.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
I don't know if I agree with this. An aura of confidence can be on you at all times if that's what you want. You just have to have the right mindset, and the girls will definately notice this about you. Usually they'll say something like "there's just something about you" or whatever, usually that's them noticing your confidence level.You just came across in that one moment very confident and your aura shined through to her. This is OK for pickups, but you can't do this in the longer run.
I can definately say that whenever I go out with intentions of meeting girls, my confidence is brimming.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
since the combined viewers on this forum and ASF are so microscopically small, you can imagine the power, the potential that this knowledge has over the rest of the human species...
rock on!!!
rock on!!!