"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The 5 second test...

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Give a confused look to my friends then turn around and go over to her...

"hey, do you know where this bus is heading?"

her: "uhh yea its heading towards ____"

"oh good you can show us how to get there"

her: no response, she'll be thrown back.

"hey guys shes..." "you are?"

her : "i'm X"

"oh ok, X is gonna show us how to get there" (now back to her) "So X, I'm dDrIx" (I'll do my pattened handshake and smile where i pretend to be very "official"

her: she will probably smile and say nothing...

"Well, where are YOU headed?"

her: "uhh i'm going to ____"

...and the convo continues as we wait for/get on the bus...
 

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Seems that alot of DJs use the INDIRECT approach. The only likely issue is that she already knows your agenda. So, why mask your intentions?

I'd do a direct approach.
Slowly & confidently walk over.
Put hands on her shoulder and turn her to face me. (if her back is facing me)

Make deep EC, pause, with a slight smile
I'll say this SLOWLY AND DELIBERATELY: YOU LOOK (pause for the dramatic effects) ABSOLUTELY GORGEOUS! (slight smile), lets get to know each other better.

The mindset behind that line is not supplicating as many may think. It's a qualifier b/c I am communicating to her that I have chosen her.

The most important aspect of an approach isn't the line. It's how you deliver it with your confidence, BL, voice tone, sincerity & honesty, because they instantly create an emotional impact on her not some excuse to pick her up.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Stand next to her and say "Man, I can't wait until my new BMW X-5 gets delivered from the dealership and I never have to wait for this bus again..."

When she asks when that's happening, say "Oh, any year now...."
 

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me: "hey"
her: (probably some greeting, ie, hi/hey)

smiling at each other, eyecontact, then...

me: so...where are you headed to? (assuming she's waiting for the bus)

i'm usually very slow on most of my approaches...so i probably wouldn't even get to the question...probably just the greeting

...edit: i went back and read some of the posts before mine...how could you say all of that in only 5 seconds? what's the rush?
 

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pretty silly thread.

but i'd walk up to her and say

"have you seen my dog, bonnie?"
"no, whats she look like?"
"she's only got 3 legs, and she's a black medium sized dog, and she's blind"
"oh! and you lost her?"
"yeah, i don't drive so me and my friends are getting on the bus. you should come to, we need all the help we can get. whats your name?"
"julie"
"ok julie jump on the bus with us."

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2 min later
now on the bus
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"julie, you're on the bang bus, we'll give you $15 to show us your p*ssy"
....
....
et cetera.
 

So pimp its scary

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The Next question...

Sorry, it seems that some have understood... I just wanted to test to see if people actually had something prepared that they could say to a woman in a random scenario. You can't really plan a conversation too much longer than the 5 seconds, but it's usually within that timeframe that you are going to have to make a first impression and to have the girl comfortably continue the conversation with you.

There were quite a few interesting answers, some I could tell have likely never been used, some that the right person could pull off, and some people that didn't take it seriously...

The next question really is, of those who answered, how many of you use what you said regularily (adapting it to situations), or just put anything in writing because they really don't have anything planned to say??

Crotchsniffer - I was assuming one singular woman. The logistics were meant to be as the person would feel best to approach for all that I cared. You got it though, if you can make it past the first 5 seconds and be able to continue the conversation than you're good to go. You most often get shot down within this 5 seconds as well... with exception of course.

joe dirt - Does it really matter if you fail? This shyt is a contact sport, people get hurt one way or the other... The fact of the matter is if you open the girl and keep even a short conversation going you could easily get her number. Whether it's a real number is a different story.
 

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Re: Re: The 5 second test...

Originally posted by HuuBinh
Seems that alot of DJs use the INDIRECT approach. The only likely issue is that she already knows your agenda. So, why mask your intentions?

I'd do a direct approach.
Slowly & confidently walk over.
Put hands on her shoulder and turn her to face me. (if her back is facing me)

Make deep EC, pause, with a slight smile
I'll say this SLOWLY AND DELIBERATELY: YOU LOOK (pause for the dramatic effects) ABSOLUTELY GORGEOUS! (slight smile), lets get to know each other better.

The mindset behind that line is not supplicating as many may think. It's a qualifier b/c I am communicating to her that I have chosen her.

The most important aspect of an approach isn't the line. It's how you deliver it with your confidence, BL, voice tone, sincerity & honesty, because they instantly create an emotional impact on her not some excuse to pick her up.
I like this one... the direct approach is good if you do it congruently. after the opener I usually start getting more and more direct. Do you use this often?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Re: The Next question...

Originally posted by So pimp its scary
Sorry, it seems that some have understood... I just wanted to test to see if people actually had something prepared that they could say to a woman in a random scenario. You can't really plan a conversation too much longer than the 5 seconds, but it's usually within that timeframe that you are going to have to make a first impression and to have the girl comfortably continue the conversation with you.

There were quite a few interesting answers, some I could tell have likely never been used, some that the right person could pull off, and some people that didn't take it seriously...

The next question really is, of those who answered, how many of you use what you said regularily (adapting it to situations), or just put anything in writing because they really don't have anything planned to say??

Crotchsniffer - I was assuming one singular woman. The logistics were meant to be as the person would feel best to approach for all that I cared. You got it though, if you can make it past the first 5 seconds and be able to continue the conversation than you're good to go. You most often get shot down within this 5 seconds as well... with exception of course.

joe dirt - Does it really matter if you fail? This shyt is a contact sport, people get hurt one way or the other... The fact of the matter is if you open the girl and keep even a short conversation going you could easily get her number. Whether it's a real number is a different story.
if i lost a 3 legged dog named bonnie, i might use the start of mine.

if i had a bus, i might use the end of mine :)
 
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