MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
I put on my robe and wizard hat.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Alright, BloodNinja.Originally posted by MetalFortress
I put on my robe and wizard hat.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I like this one... the direct approach is good if you do it congruently. after the opener I usually start getting more and more direct. Do you use this often?Originally posted by HuuBinh
Seems that alot of DJs use the INDIRECT approach. The only likely issue is that she already knows your agenda. So, why mask your intentions?
I'd do a direct approach.
Slowly & confidently walk over.
Put hands on her shoulder and turn her to face me. (if her back is facing me)
Make deep EC, pause, with a slight smile
I'll say this SLOWLY AND DELIBERATELY: YOU LOOK (pause for the dramatic effects) ABSOLUTELY GORGEOUS! (slight smile), lets get to know each other better.
The mindset behind that line is not supplicating as many may think. It's a qualifier b/c I am communicating to her that I have chosen her.
The most important aspect of an approach isn't the line. It's how you deliver it with your confidence, BL, voice tone, sincerity & honesty, because they instantly create an emotional impact on her not some excuse to pick her up.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
if i lost a 3 legged dog named bonnie, i might use the start of mine.Originally posted by So pimp its scary
Sorry, it seems that some have understood... I just wanted to test to see if people actually had something prepared that they could say to a woman in a random scenario. You can't really plan a conversation too much longer than the 5 seconds, but it's usually within that timeframe that you are going to have to make a first impression and to have the girl comfortably continue the conversation with you.
There were quite a few interesting answers, some I could tell have likely never been used, some that the right person could pull off, and some people that didn't take it seriously...
The next question really is, of those who answered, how many of you use what you said regularily (adapting it to situations), or just put anything in writing because they really don't have anything planned to say??
Crotchsniffer - I was assuming one singular woman. The logistics were meant to be as the person would feel best to approach for all that I cared. You got it though, if you can make it past the first 5 seconds and be able to continue the conversation than you're good to go. You most often get shot down within this 5 seconds as well... with exception of course.
joe dirt - Does it really matter if you fail? This shyt is a contact sport, people get hurt one way or the other... The fact of the matter is if you open the girl and keep even a short conversation going you could easily get her number. Whether it's a real number is a different story.