Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The 4 things it takes to be an expert

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As I was watching this, it occurred to me that these concepts apply to pickup as well.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Not sure I buy that bit about the chessmasters. I've heard current champ Magnus Carlson say that he knows something like 10,000 chess games from memory. I saw a video where someone showed him a random position from a game, and he recognized the game immediately, who played, who won, when it was played. He has a photographic memory when it comes to chess. That's a unique ability IMO, there is something special about him.
 

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Not sure I buy that bit about the chessmasters. I've heard current champ Magnus Carlson say that he knows something like 10,000 chess games from memory. I saw a video where someone showed him a random position from a game, and he recognized the game immediately, who played, who won, when it was played. He has a photographic memory when it comes to chess. That's a unique ability IMO, there is something special about him.
Yeah the difference between chess masters and random people that play chess is the same difference between professional athletes in any sport and the ones that play pickup games which is the same difference between professional software engineers and hobbyist coders.

Once you start going up in class you start realizing how much those people know about technical aspects of what they are doing to mind blowing degrees which is likely even more advanced than their abilities in playing the game itself.
 
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