"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"That guy right there thinks you are hot"

Babnik

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I did this to my friend now and I am pissed.

He was checking out a girl in a cafeteria and thought she was real hot and I was leaving so I went up to her and said "That guy right there thinks you are hot *wink*" and I THOUGHT that it would make her think he is a wuss because he wouldn't approach, but INSTEAD she approached HIM!

Would you say in most cases a girl WOULD see the guy as a wuss if he was introduced like that?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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..why were you trying to hurt your friends game?

It's kind of funny it backfired on you.. and in all honesty you deserved it. But in any case.. I think it just depends on the chick. In some cases you might have just shot gunned his chances with this girl..
 

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NFC said:
..why were you trying to hurt your friends game?

It's kind of funny it backfired on you.. and in all honesty you deserved it. But in any case.. I think it just depends on the chick. In some cases you might have just shot gunned his chances with this girl..
Well, he is a guy I know, not a real friend friend. I kind of WANTED to kill his game.

I do this sometimes, make other guys look pathetic. One day I may get my ass kicked for that.

But I don't feel bad about it... I mean if I want it, why should HE get it?
 

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I try to avoid doing that.. hating on people's game isnt really DJ like. Just play your cards right.. and show the chick how fly you are WITHOUT dissing on people. I think that is more DJ-like IMO.
 

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Wow you stocked up on haterade and it back fired on you! Sorry you got what you deserved. I don't have many rules in my game but one of them is never hate on anybody. It's very uncouth and makes me look...well like a hater. And nobody likes a hater.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You got what you deserve. And so did your friend. :D Everybody wins.
 

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Why is there any reason to be upset? Your FRIEND got approached by a hottie, and you helped. That seems like lots of reasons to be happy and proud. It didn't cost you a dime.
 

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Babnik said:
I did this to my friend now and I am pissed.

He was checking out a girl in a cafeteria and thought she was real hot and I was leaving so I went up to her and said "That guy right there thinks you are hot *wink*" and I THOUGHT that it would make her think he is a wuss because he wouldn't approach, but INSTEAD she approached HIM!

Would you say in most cases a girl WOULD see the guy as a wuss if he was introduced like that?
i'm not surprised by the true nature of the original poster, given some of the posts he has made in the past about "looks being the be-all end-all" lol
 

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I mentioned to a friend that a lady at the bar we were at looked like a particular beautiful actress.
He went up and told her.
She beamed from ear to ear.
It was like insta-attraction.
 

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good for you, people who always try to hurt others always get it themselves, plus, NFC is right, use your knowledge of DJ for your own good and not evil thoughts and hurting others.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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So who is hotter, you, or that other guy?



Either chick thinks he is hotter, or she wants to get you jelous. When he bangs her it wil hit your balls hard.. You realized you have a sh1tty quality you can work on.
 

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I've actually had this happen to me a number of time. I've been at the receiving end of the spectrum because I could not keep my mouth shut and my "friends" would go blabber away. The best way to play this off is the use of sarcasm. Be sarcastic with your responses.

"You think I'm hot?"
"Really!? Now who told you that? ;)"
"Oh haha! He always does that to girls he likes!"

Follow up with:
"So what's your name?"
"Anyway, why don't you sit down?"
-continue with a story or DHV or whatever the hell you guys do these days

Remember to keep similing and keep girls guessing on whether you really are interested in them or not. Never state it directly, or if you do, make sure it is sarcastic. Good luck fellas! =)
 

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Next time, you want a girl, tell her that YOU think she's hot!!!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Babnik said:
I did this to my friend now and I am pissed.

He was checking out a girl in a cafeteria and thought she was real hot and I was leaving so I went up to her and said "That guy right there thinks you are hot *wink*" and I THOUGHT that it would make her think he is a wuss because he wouldn't approach, but INSTEAD she approached HIM!

Would you say in most cases a girl WOULD see the guy as a wuss if he was introduced like that?
*clears throat*...

um, this is an example of why the logic of the DJ bible is sooo horribly wrong.

DJ bible=crap. basically, if you want to succeed with women, you almost have to do the opposite of what it says to do, beleive the opposite of what it says to beleive.
 

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God_of_getting_layed said:
*clears throat*...

um, this is an example of why the logic of the DJ bible is sooo horribly wrong.

DJ bible=crap. basically, if you want to succeed with women, you almost have to do the opposite of what it says to do, beleive the opposite of what it says to beleive.
and what´s that supposed to mean?
 

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ChrizZ said:
and what´s that supposed to mean?
I thought I already make my posts dumbed down enough for most of the low IQ people on this forum to understand, but I guess not.

Basically, in layman's terms, my posts means: this is proof the DJ bible is wrong most of the time, if not always.

DONT TRUST IT.

THey need to put a disclaimer at the top of the DJ bible about it's innacuracies.
 

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God_of_getting_layed said:
I thought I already make my posts dumbed down enough for most of the low IQ people on this forum to understand, but I guess not.

Basically, in layman's terms, my posts means: this is proof the DJ bible is wrong most of the time, if not always.

DONT TRUST IT.

THey need to put a disclaimer at the top of the DJ bible about it's innacuracies.
I see. So you are one of those guys that girls use as a doormat and takes them out to 300$ dinners since you said everyone should do the total opposite of what the bible teaches. You are talking a lot of sh!t for someone who hasn´t got anything to say.
 

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ChrizZ said:
I see. So you are one of those guys that girls use as a doormat and takes them out to 300$ dinners since you said everyone should do the total opposite of what the bible teaches. You are talking a lot of sh!t for someone who hasn´t got anything to say.
1. I in no way suggest letting a girl use you as a doormat or use you for money, or be her *****.

2. What I do suggest is that the DJ bible is horribly wrong. ITs sooo wrong, that your probably better off by simply doing the opposite of what it says to do.

So, mr. DJ bible lover, how do you explain the original poster's situation with DJ bible logic? according to the DJ bible, the chick should have actually been turned off, and avoided approaching the guy. IT seems the opposite has happened after the friend displayed his wussyness.. According to the DJ bible, women dont tolerate wussy behavior and its a turn off..according to the DJ bible.

So again, how do you explain this?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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