"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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"That guy right there thinks you are hot"

Babnik

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I did this to my friend now and I am pissed.

He was checking out a girl in a cafeteria and thought she was real hot and I was leaving so I went up to her and said "That guy right there thinks you are hot *wink*" and I THOUGHT that it would make her think he is a wuss because he wouldn't approach, but INSTEAD she approached HIM!

Would you say in most cases a girl WOULD see the guy as a wuss if he was introduced like that?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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..why were you trying to hurt your friends game?

It's kind of funny it backfired on you.. and in all honesty you deserved it. But in any case.. I think it just depends on the chick. In some cases you might have just shot gunned his chances with this girl..
 

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NFC said:
..why were you trying to hurt your friends game?

It's kind of funny it backfired on you.. and in all honesty you deserved it. But in any case.. I think it just depends on the chick. In some cases you might have just shot gunned his chances with this girl..
Well, he is a guy I know, not a real friend friend. I kind of WANTED to kill his game.

I do this sometimes, make other guys look pathetic. One day I may get my ass kicked for that.

But I don't feel bad about it... I mean if I want it, why should HE get it?
 

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I try to avoid doing that.. hating on people's game isnt really DJ like. Just play your cards right.. and show the chick how fly you are WITHOUT dissing on people. I think that is more DJ-like IMO.
 

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Wow you stocked up on haterade and it back fired on you! Sorry you got what you deserved. I don't have many rules in my game but one of them is never hate on anybody. It's very uncouth and makes me look...well like a hater. And nobody likes a hater.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You got what you deserve. And so did your friend. :D Everybody wins.
 

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Why is there any reason to be upset? Your FRIEND got approached by a hottie, and you helped. That seems like lots of reasons to be happy and proud. It didn't cost you a dime.
 

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Babnik said:
I did this to my friend now and I am pissed.

He was checking out a girl in a cafeteria and thought she was real hot and I was leaving so I went up to her and said "That guy right there thinks you are hot *wink*" and I THOUGHT that it would make her think he is a wuss because he wouldn't approach, but INSTEAD she approached HIM!

Would you say in most cases a girl WOULD see the guy as a wuss if he was introduced like that?
i'm not surprised by the true nature of the original poster, given some of the posts he has made in the past about "looks being the be-all end-all" lol
 

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I mentioned to a friend that a lady at the bar we were at looked like a particular beautiful actress.
He went up and told her.
She beamed from ear to ear.
It was like insta-attraction.
 

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good for you, people who always try to hurt others always get it themselves, plus, NFC is right, use your knowledge of DJ for your own good and not evil thoughts and hurting others.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So who is hotter, you, or that other guy?



Either chick thinks he is hotter, or she wants to get you jelous. When he bangs her it wil hit your balls hard.. You realized you have a sh1tty quality you can work on.
 

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I've actually had this happen to me a number of time. I've been at the receiving end of the spectrum because I could not keep my mouth shut and my "friends" would go blabber away. The best way to play this off is the use of sarcasm. Be sarcastic with your responses.

"You think I'm hot?"
"Really!? Now who told you that? ;)"
"Oh haha! He always does that to girls he likes!"

Follow up with:
"So what's your name?"
"Anyway, why don't you sit down?"
-continue with a story or DHV or whatever the hell you guys do these days

Remember to keep similing and keep girls guessing on whether you really are interested in them or not. Never state it directly, or if you do, make sure it is sarcastic. Good luck fellas! =)
 

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Next time, you want a girl, tell her that YOU think she's hot!!!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Babnik said:
I did this to my friend now and I am pissed.

He was checking out a girl in a cafeteria and thought she was real hot and I was leaving so I went up to her and said "That guy right there thinks you are hot *wink*" and I THOUGHT that it would make her think he is a wuss because he wouldn't approach, but INSTEAD she approached HIM!

Would you say in most cases a girl WOULD see the guy as a wuss if he was introduced like that?
*clears throat*...

um, this is an example of why the logic of the DJ bible is sooo horribly wrong.

DJ bible=crap. basically, if you want to succeed with women, you almost have to do the opposite of what it says to do, beleive the opposite of what it says to beleive.
 

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God_of_getting_layed said:
*clears throat*...

um, this is an example of why the logic of the DJ bible is sooo horribly wrong.

DJ bible=crap. basically, if you want to succeed with women, you almost have to do the opposite of what it says to do, beleive the opposite of what it says to beleive.
and what´s that supposed to mean?
 

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ChrizZ said:
and what´s that supposed to mean?
I thought I already make my posts dumbed down enough for most of the low IQ people on this forum to understand, but I guess not.

Basically, in layman's terms, my posts means: this is proof the DJ bible is wrong most of the time, if not always.

DONT TRUST IT.

THey need to put a disclaimer at the top of the DJ bible about it's innacuracies.
 

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God_of_getting_layed said:
I thought I already make my posts dumbed down enough for most of the low IQ people on this forum to understand, but I guess not.

Basically, in layman's terms, my posts means: this is proof the DJ bible is wrong most of the time, if not always.

DONT TRUST IT.

THey need to put a disclaimer at the top of the DJ bible about it's innacuracies.
I see. So you are one of those guys that girls use as a doormat and takes them out to 300$ dinners since you said everyone should do the total opposite of what the bible teaches. You are talking a lot of sh!t for someone who hasn´t got anything to say.
 

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ChrizZ said:
I see. So you are one of those guys that girls use as a doormat and takes them out to 300$ dinners since you said everyone should do the total opposite of what the bible teaches. You are talking a lot of sh!t for someone who hasn´t got anything to say.
1. I in no way suggest letting a girl use you as a doormat or use you for money, or be her *****.

2. What I do suggest is that the DJ bible is horribly wrong. ITs sooo wrong, that your probably better off by simply doing the opposite of what it says to do.

So, mr. DJ bible lover, how do you explain the original poster's situation with DJ bible logic? according to the DJ bible, the chick should have actually been turned off, and avoided approaching the guy. IT seems the opposite has happened after the friend displayed his wussyness.. According to the DJ bible, women dont tolerate wussy behavior and its a turn off..according to the DJ bible.

So again, how do you explain this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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