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Don Juan
- Joined
- Dec 8, 2018
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So I thought I’d share my story of my breakup and how I got to SS.
Long story short, I was a very confident, underlying Beta in disguise salesman. Polar opposite huh?
Well, I got into a relationship at work in a male dominated company, things were going well until she started pulling away from me after a family loss. I compensated by giving her too much attention, being available, all the traits of a man without power, sound familiar?
Well, one night I hit the roof, she’s in other departments, I work late, hear giggling incessantly and I pop through to the floor and it’s like she’s shocked I’m still there, pretty much that was the end for me. I’d had enough but being myself I wanted to cling onto the relationship for companionship etc. Absolutely pathetic I know. I proceed to get absolutely wasted, ensues an argument over text then I go searching on the web for advice and that’s when I came across this absolute goldmine of a forum/website. I look into the breakup articles, when to end it etc, the usual stuff. The next morning, I pick up the phone with a horrendous hangover and call her, she’s distant, couldn’t really be bothered with the call, explains all this **** about not being cautious around me without having Male friends then for a crippling beta Male (which I’m actively changing), I decide to say that’s it I’m done after reading an article on here about when to breakup with someone.
For the first 20 minutes was instant relief, the next month and a half was hell, I’m not gunna lie. But guess what? This is the perfect time to become a better man. I’m sharing this post for similar guys that get lead to this forum cause there ex ended it or they broke up from a toxic relationship. This forum has solid advisors, great articles and I’ve got my confidence back, however this has been fast tracked purely from absorbing information on this forum.
- I’ve went no contact near enough 50 days, she’s reached out once, I ignored.
- I give her nothing at work, no conversation, I don’t even look at her.
- I walk around with a smile on my face.
- I’m becoming a better, vastly improved man than I was prior to the relationship and during.
- I’ve gotten a new wardrobe.
- I’ve lost 20lbs, in probably the cleanest shape of my life.
- I’m working through the DJ bible which is pure gold.
All of this wouldn’t have been possible without you guys and I owe you a massive thanks. It’s taken me till now till move on fully and the raw aggression and determination I have is something I’ve never expierenced in my life.
I’ll continue to be on this forum, this is just the start.
Long story short, I was a very confident, underlying Beta in disguise salesman. Polar opposite huh?
Well, I got into a relationship at work in a male dominated company, things were going well until she started pulling away from me after a family loss. I compensated by giving her too much attention, being available, all the traits of a man without power, sound familiar?
Well, one night I hit the roof, she’s in other departments, I work late, hear giggling incessantly and I pop through to the floor and it’s like she’s shocked I’m still there, pretty much that was the end for me. I’d had enough but being myself I wanted to cling onto the relationship for companionship etc. Absolutely pathetic I know. I proceed to get absolutely wasted, ensues an argument over text then I go searching on the web for advice and that’s when I came across this absolute goldmine of a forum/website. I look into the breakup articles, when to end it etc, the usual stuff. The next morning, I pick up the phone with a horrendous hangover and call her, she’s distant, couldn’t really be bothered with the call, explains all this **** about not being cautious around me without having Male friends then for a crippling beta Male (which I’m actively changing), I decide to say that’s it I’m done after reading an article on here about when to breakup with someone.
For the first 20 minutes was instant relief, the next month and a half was hell, I’m not gunna lie. But guess what? This is the perfect time to become a better man. I’m sharing this post for similar guys that get lead to this forum cause there ex ended it or they broke up from a toxic relationship. This forum has solid advisors, great articles and I’ve got my confidence back, however this has been fast tracked purely from absorbing information on this forum.
- I’ve went no contact near enough 50 days, she’s reached out once, I ignored.
- I give her nothing at work, no conversation, I don’t even look at her.
- I walk around with a smile on my face.
- I’m becoming a better, vastly improved man than I was prior to the relationship and during.
- I’ve gotten a new wardrobe.
- I’ve lost 20lbs, in probably the cleanest shape of my life.
- I’m working through the DJ bible which is pure gold.
All of this wouldn’t have been possible without you guys and I owe you a massive thanks. It’s taken me till now till move on fully and the raw aggression and determination I have is something I’ve never expierenced in my life.
I’ll continue to be on this forum, this is just the start.