"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SgtSplacker

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Just wanted to thank all of the contributors to making this site. I recently came here because I had the wrong idea about how to express my affections for women. I just was not checking my emotion and was letting them run wild on purpose. I wanted to let the raw emotion of love control my actions and live my life governed by what I was feeling at the moment. I felt I was being true to myself and those around me. I just wanted to experience the visceral emotions of love in my life unchecked. And coming here made me understand that this is wrong. A man needs to control his emotions and not let his emotions control him. I am now thinking with my mind first and my heart second. And this is making me happy, and proud of myself. Honestly I was feeling a bit childish before. So Thank You! this is a great site for men. Dating can be tricky and it's very easy to make mistakes that may cost you a potential life changing relationship.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Mike32ct

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Most, if not all, problems in a man's life are caused by not keeping his emotions in check.

It's very tempting to live a life ruled by your feelings and what feels good. But that is a one-way ticket to complete self-destruction. It will destroy your health, career/business, financial situation, relationships, family, etc.
 

SgtSplacker

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I cant agree more Mike, I was allowing this to happen in my relationships because I thought that is what it was all about. But recently I have been dating someone who really has no control over her emotions and that sent me flying all over the place. I just had the frame of mind that to allow myself to feel all of these things was "living life". Well I still "live life" just a bit more composed and much happier.
 
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