Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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So you went ahead and asked her to the game anyway? Despite multiple advice against it? AND against your own inclinations? Sheesh...sandman6991 said:
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Then practice, practice, practice.
Then when you call up the next girl, speak clearly and with conviction. Smile when you're talking, she'll hear it. Use what you've written down, she won't see the paper.
I repeat get to know more girls do not get a oneitis, or you're in for slavery or a good old painfull dump. Do an action date, where you don't have to talk to much. (She doesn't need to know everything about you in one date -> action is the enemy of thought...)sandman6991 said:Jesus!!!!!!!!
I'm a stupid, stupid man. I just called. My first time calling a girl. No excuse at all. I blew it like Monica Lewinski.
- Get a grip man, your already overthinking it and you just met her, don't stop cold approaching women, do it today, cause this is getting into a oneitis anyway
Her: Hey
Me: Shay?
Her: Yeah
Me: It's ______
Her: Oh, hey!
Me: How's it going?
Her: Oh it's going ok
Me: That's good to hear...
Her: How's it going with you?
Me: It's going good!
Her: Cool!
Me: I've got a question for you here real quick...
Her: Haha...yeah
- think she's getting intrested into you or slightly is
Me: Are you a football fan
- never, EVER go on a viewing date, worst idea ever! You would try to be macho, and screw things up, or you'll be a puss and screw things up, eather way first dates are ALWAYse action dates...
Her: Yeah
Me: A Vols fan?
Her: What? *I guess she couldn't hear me...idfk*
Me: A Tennessee Vols fan?
Her: Oh, yeah
- she probebly couldn't care less...
Me: Well, get this. My friend and I usually go to the UT games, and he's going to be gone this weekend...would you like to come with me?
Her: Well...I don't know if i can. I may be going out of town this weekend
Me: Oh really..when?
Her: Maybe Friday night...
Me: Well...call me... (WRONG) or (VERY WRONG, no or) I'll call you later this week and maybe we can work something out (WRONG)
-just say: Ok no problem, I'll call you later; don't promis (you're giving her to much control, you're the guy leading not her) this week or whatever, best thing you can do now is call her like thursday or something cause she's expecting you, make her wait at least a bit...
Her: Okay
Me: See ya later
Her: Bye
I had a sh!t load of funny stuff to say, but I forgot it all when I called. I was going to bust on her for saying she was bad with names and then knowing who I am..and tons of other stuff...I get nervous on the phone...I don't use the phone...I should have texted...I shouldn't have been a moron when I called...I am a stupid, stupid man.(*sight... selfimage 0/10*)
-Don't make phone talks to long, make your "superb" jokes when you're on a date, at least there they will have a decent effect, phone calls are there to make the dates.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
2. You called and blew it but at least you had the balls to call. You learned from it and thats what counts. I've probably called and setup over 150 first dates in my day, probably more. I probably blew at least 30 of the calls by saying stupid stuff. I probably never repeated any of those 30 mistakes again though and now I nail it pretty much 99% of the time. Practice is everything.
sandman6991 said:
I'm just going to throw this out there, if you have a problem talkin to her on the phone....... you could just text her, it's not too weird, i mean you already called her. But ask her if she wants to go get some coffee. Because you can get to talk to her and get to know her more and get much more comfortable with her and yourself. I also noticed you said before that you had alot of funny things set up to say to her. Don't do that. I've tried that before , never try to practice or think of stuff before hand. Go with the flow of the conversation.
I hope this could help you.