"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Texting this chick i need help

Harmonix

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this chick i really like at school was introduced to me yesterday last day of school, by her friend and i said hi and shook her hand i didn't say anything because i was nervous i don't know why i usually don't get nervous talking to chicks. now her friend gave me her cell number and now i don't know if should text her or not because we don't know each other that much. should i just forget about it? please help.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I would just call her up first talk to her then you can worry about texting. Just keep telling yourself "I AM A PIMP". Call her be smooth, introduce yourself. Make small talk and ask for the date. Let us know how it goes.
 

Harmonix

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ye i planned calling her but i' m not sure what to say. and she might have forgotten who i am lol. can you suggest anything i can say to her to the phone? thanks
 
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Just call her up and say "Hi this is ..... from ......"
Tell her that your friend gave you her number and you want to take her out and tell her she will have fun you promise. Then tell her to meet you somewhere.

I'm no expert not even close. Someone else help this kid out.
 

iqqi

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Lol. Kid, how old are you? When did you get her number? If it was this week, then she hasn't forgotten who you are. What, are you unforgettable?

Also. If the girl's friend gave you the digits... the girl you like knows, and probably told her to... cuz she likes you!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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kakashi

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Oh man I had this happen to me back in my afc days, long story short i screwed it up by jumping at her command. id push-pull her, interact and hint that you mite be interested and then back off, until shes got the look of a ravenous wolf. then you make YOUR move.
 

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The girl needs to know that her friend gave you her number. Calling her out of the blue is going to be a little creepy, especially if this girl doesn't have a good amount of interest back at you.

Try to run into this girl you like at school, it'll be easier to say hi now as you've already met her, so have a short chat then ask for her number yourself.
 

Nexus Polaris

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I know this is easier said than done because I just made the same mistake and don't want to sound like a hypocrite, but just call her and expect her to respond well. If she asks where you got her number, tell her that her friend gave it to you and joke that she should probably have a talk with her friend about just handing out her number to random guys who didn't even ask for it.

I don't know. That's what I'd do. But take my advice with a grain of salt. I'm still here more to learn than to teach.
 
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