this chick i really like at school was introduced to me yesterday last day of school, by her friend and i said hi and shook her hand i didn't say anything because i was nervous i don't know why i usually don't get nervous talking to chicks. now her friend gave me her cell number and now i don't know if should text her or not because we don't know each other that much. should i just forget about it? please help.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Texting this chick i need help
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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I would just call her up first talk to her then you can worry about texting. Just keep telling yourself "I AM A PIMP". Call her be smooth, introduce yourself. Make small talk and ask for the date. Let us know how it goes.
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Just call her up and say "Hi this is ..... from ......"
Tell her that your friend gave you her number and you want to take her out and tell her she will have fun you promise. Then tell her to meet you somewhere.
I'm no expert not even close. Someone else help this kid out.
Tell her that your friend gave you her number and you want to take her out and tell her she will have fun you promise. Then tell her to meet you somewhere.
I'm no expert not even close. Someone else help this kid out.
iqqi
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Lol. Kid, how old are you? When did you get her number? If it was this week, then she hasn't forgotten who you are. What, are you unforgettable?
Also. If the girl's friend gave you the digits... the girl you like knows, and probably told her to... cuz she likes you!
Also. If the girl's friend gave you the digits... the girl you like knows, and probably told her to... cuz she likes you!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Oh man I had this happen to me back in my afc days, long story short i screwed it up by jumping at her command. id push-pull her, interact and hint that you mite be interested and then back off, until shes got the look of a ravenous wolf. then you make YOUR move.
Monkey
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The girl needs to know that her friend gave you her number. Calling her out of the blue is going to be a little creepy, especially if this girl doesn't have a good amount of interest back at you.
Try to run into this girl you like at school, it'll be easier to say hi now as you've already met her, so have a short chat then ask for her number yourself.
Try to run into this girl you like at school, it'll be easier to say hi now as you've already met her, so have a short chat then ask for her number yourself.
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I know this is easier said than done because I just made the same mistake and don't want to sound like a hypocrite, but just call her and expect her to respond well. If she asks where you got her number, tell her that her friend gave it to you and joke that she should probably have a talk with her friend about just handing out her number to random guys who didn't even ask for it.
I don't know. That's what I'd do. But take my advice with a grain of salt. I'm still here more to learn than to teach.
I don't know. That's what I'd do. But take my advice with a grain of salt. I'm still here more to learn than to teach.