Texting and chatting kill attraction but what if she keeps initiating?

[StacksHitEmUp]

So yeah, how to deal with a female who keeps initiating texts or facebook chat? I usually just keep it light and funny, but I don't like it because it feels pointless to me if I don't have anything extraordinary to tell. I text to set up dates, not to bs around. It also makes things boring. This chick keeps initiating Facebook chat with me and if not she'll text me. I'm trying my best to avoid it. How do you guys deal with this issue?

 

[Maximus Rex]

If you're not planning to f*ck a woman soon, why are to talking to her? Only talk to her when you are making moves. PlayHer Man

 

[wifehunter]

texting and calls can get tricky... by nature they make you too available... would be nice if phones would let you automatically send specified people a vacation response or something like that! That way you could program your phone to make you less available.

 

[wifehunter]

Got it... if your phone has a contact assignable notification/ring tone, find or make a blank .wav file (no sound), then you wont hear her when she texts/calls. You'll get to her in your own time.

 

[marmel75]

As long as you aren't being lame and coming across as desperate you are fine.

The issue is most guys come across as lame and desperate

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Reply hours later...like 5 or 6 hours later.

Not sure I agree with this, as it could fall into the "overgaming" category. Rather than looking like you have a bunch of things to do, it just makes it look like you aren't interested. That's how she'll interpret it anyway and probably will move on before too long.

I would just be up front with her and apologize in advance that you're not much of a texter. Also sign out of Facebook chat so she can't message you.

When she does text, maybe yeah wait a while to respond, but then have a window of a certain part of the day (say when you get off of work) where you reply instantly for a bit, then tell her you have to get going and end it with "Have a good night!"

 

[EyeBRollin]

If she's initiating you are in good shape (for now). That can change if you become too available.

Have set times when you can text. No texting at work, on the weekend evenings, while you're at the gym, or out with people. Make her wait. Also, always have somewhere to be. Exit the conversation and tell her to save it for when she sees you in person. Then get the hell off the phone. If you can't back your way out of a convo, tell her straight up you are busy and will talk to her another time.

Do this for a couple months and she will literally beg and complain for more time (this means you are doing everything perfectly). Make her earn every second of attention.

 

[Alpheta]

I've changed my tactic recently. Before I would initiate sometimes but she would mostly.

However now it's been a month or less and I have done 0 initiating. That's the rule I have followed and I kid you not she has initiated every single time and every time she seems more desperate and in "love" I reply to her texts if I need to but after some time. Sometimes Id respond quickly and carry the convo for a few minutes until I just vanish out or tell her up chat to her "soon" or il catch her "later" keeps her hanging.

I feel so so so much more stress free. I have all the power. She loves me more than even and everytime we meet up she's a puppy. Savouring every moment with me.

 

[Atom Smasher]

That's why you're in the best position possible. The best balance in a relationship is always for the woman to always have a vague fear of losing you. If that dynamic does not exist, usually it's the man fearing losing her.

However, in dread game, as it's called, the man must offset it with random shows of affection. You might on very rare occasions initiate a text. VERY rare. If that is not appropriate for you, then another type of encouragement for her would be good. You seem to "get it" so I won't elaborate.

I've always had extremely good results with this formula. I keep them guessing, but occasionally offset her stress with a show of affection. This creates reference points for her to look back to when she feels frustrated.

 

[StacksHitEmUp]

I personally believe that when they initiate communications--whether its text or Facebook or whatever--you've already won the frame. The only problem that you have is that you aren't inviting them to meet you.

Yeah, but I've got exams in college for the next three weeks and I'm focusing on that right now because I ****ed up last year. I don't plan on initiating or talking much to her and then when I'm done with exams I'll hit her up to do something.

 

[EyeBRollin]

However, in dread game, as it's called, the man must offset it with random shows of affection. You might on very rare occasions initiate a text. VERY rare.

IF you actually care. A lot of times we don't... lol.

You're at your best when you are truly outcome independent.

 

[El Payaso]

Tell her you're busy and you can't talk.