"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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cali51

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She said she was busy... How bad was my text response and how do I proceed? Should I wait a couple days and text her like nothing happened.
What are some general ways to initiate a text in order to build rapport?

And is a qualifying text Opener ever a good idea?

Me:Hey silly, there's this wine tasting place I want to checkout this weekend. Let's crash it! Is Sat or Sun better for you?

Her: Would love to be ur accomplice, however I work doubles all weekend. I'm training unfortunately
Maybe my schedule will be different next weekend.

Me: No biggie (her name). Just hit me up next week and we'll take it from there...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheCWord

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Hey cali, I had a very similar situation come up yesterday.

I opted to not tell her to hit me up next week - because a girl, unless super interested, just isn't going to do that. Then, when I'd ultimately text her, she would remember that she was "supposed" to text me, didn't, and I came back anyway. Power gone.

Instead, when she said let's try something the next week, I just said that's a good idea, have a great week. Now it's not on any one person to initiate contact. We'll see if she does - then it's game over for her - but, if she doesn't, I just drop a line and try to make plans like we discussed.

For you: see if she texts, she won't, then text her and setup plans. One more "too busy" response w/o specific counteroffer = next.
 

jay07

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You need to work on text game. Exclamations are not a good idea unless your being sarcastic, and calling a chick silly is kind of lame.

Shouldve went something like this.

Me: so theres this wine tasting event this weekend, ive chosen you to be my designated driver, how lucky for you.
Her: blaa blaa double shifts blaa
Me: <no response>

Or..

If i dont care and want to test the waters..

Me: are you sure? I pay in sexual favors.
 

Pimp-sicle

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CWord hit the nail on the head.

Never expect a girl to initiate early on; even if she is interested.

Now your stuck in the wait & see approach since you put the ball in her court & I can almost guarantee you that she won't text you.

Qualifying text openers can work and work well; IF you've built sufficient attraction. You have to learn to read where you are with a girl, to know how to properly game her.








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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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