"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Texted For Day 2, but

cali51

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She said she was busy... How bad was my text response and how do I proceed? Should I wait a couple days and text her like nothing happened.
What are some general ways to initiate a text in order to build rapport?

And is a qualifying text Opener ever a good idea?

Me:Hey silly, there's this wine tasting place I want to checkout this weekend. Let's crash it! Is Sat or Sun better for you?

Her: Would love to be ur accomplice, however I work doubles all weekend. I'm training unfortunately
Maybe my schedule will be different next weekend.

Me: No biggie (her name). Just hit me up next week and we'll take it from there...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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TheCWord

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Hey cali, I had a very similar situation come up yesterday.

I opted to not tell her to hit me up next week - because a girl, unless super interested, just isn't going to do that. Then, when I'd ultimately text her, she would remember that she was "supposed" to text me, didn't, and I came back anyway. Power gone.

Instead, when she said let's try something the next week, I just said that's a good idea, have a great week. Now it's not on any one person to initiate contact. We'll see if she does - then it's game over for her - but, if she doesn't, I just drop a line and try to make plans like we discussed.

For you: see if she texts, she won't, then text her and setup plans. One more "too busy" response w/o specific counteroffer = next.
 

jay07

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You need to work on text game. Exclamations are not a good idea unless your being sarcastic, and calling a chick silly is kind of lame.

Shouldve went something like this.

Me: so theres this wine tasting event this weekend, ive chosen you to be my designated driver, how lucky for you.
Her: blaa blaa double shifts blaa
Me: <no response>

Or..

If i dont care and want to test the waters..

Me: are you sure? I pay in sexual favors.
 

Pimp-sicle

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CWord hit the nail on the head.

Never expect a girl to initiate early on; even if she is interested.

Now your stuck in the wait & see approach since you put the ball in her court & I can almost guarantee you that she won't text you.

Qualifying text openers can work and work well; IF you've built sufficient attraction. You have to learn to read where you are with a girl, to know how to properly game her.








PIMP
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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