"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Text question - setting up date

Funk Daddy011

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Each of the few times recently I got a girls number, exchanged a few texts to open it, then go for setting up the date. I have been being assertive as prescribed here. "Meet me thursday night at x" etc. The one I just sent was "I'm out of town for work this week, lets get together next week". This was after a little funny banter. I had to open her, but I wasnt going to sit around and text her all week. She responded with "yes sir". I have been getting responses like this lately. Really reeks of passive aggressive annoyance at my assertiveness.

Is this a **** test? Should I respond? My curent plan would be to text her again on Sunday to set up the date next week.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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That approach is right, but he timing is premature. You need to get a conversation going first.

In this case wait a week and try to get a conversation going again, but better yet see her again at her work, etc.
 

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That approach is right, but he timing is premature. You need to get a conversation going first.

In this case wait a week and try to get a conversation going again, but better yet see her again at her work, etc.
I met her on Sat. Opened her with text on Monday. We've exchanged a few texts with long reply times yesterday and today. I cant really hang out until next Thur. I am trying to keep texting to a minimum and push for the date, but it is a week off. What do you do from here?
 

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I met her on Sat. Opened her with text on Monday. We've exchanged a few texts with long reply times yesterday and today. I cant really hang out until next Thur. I am trying to keep texting to a minimum and push for the date, but it is a week off. What do you do from here?
1) Wait
2) Try to see her in person
3) Ask her out if she doesn't reach out within a week
 
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