"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

Text question - setting up date

Funk Daddy011

New Member
Joined
May 23, 2017
Messages
2
Reaction score
0
Age
42
Each of the few times recently I got a girls number, exchanged a few texts to open it, then go for setting up the date. I have been being assertive as prescribed here. "Meet me thursday night at x" etc. The one I just sent was "I'm out of town for work this week, lets get together next week". This was after a little funny banter. I had to open her, but I wasnt going to sit around and text her all week. She responded with "yes sir". I have been getting responses like this lately. Really reeks of passive aggressive annoyance at my assertiveness.

Is this a **** test? Should I respond? My curent plan would be to text her again on Sunday to set up the date next week.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

bigneil

Banned
Joined
Oct 20, 2006
Messages
8,265
Reaction score
2,644
Location
Texas
That approach is right, but he timing is premature. You need to get a conversation going first.

In this case wait a week and try to get a conversation going again, but better yet see her again at her work, etc.
 

Funk Daddy011

New Member
Joined
May 23, 2017
Messages
2
Reaction score
0
Age
42
That approach is right, but he timing is premature. You need to get a conversation going first.

In this case wait a week and try to get a conversation going again, but better yet see her again at her work, etc.
I met her on Sat. Opened her with text on Monday. We've exchanged a few texts with long reply times yesterday and today. I cant really hang out until next Thur. I am trying to keep texting to a minimum and push for the date, but it is a week off. What do you do from here?
 

bigneil

Banned
Joined
Oct 20, 2006
Messages
8,265
Reaction score
2,644
Location
Texas
I met her on Sat. Opened her with text on Monday. We've exchanged a few texts with long reply times yesterday and today. I cant really hang out until next Thur. I am trying to keep texting to a minimum and push for the date, but it is a week off. What do you do from here?
1) Wait
2) Try to see her in person
3) Ask her out if she doesn't reach out within a week
 
Top