Ok i met a girl last night on POF and we talked for like 5 min bc it was late, So i asked for her facebook but she said she deactivated it bc of drama and that she didnt get on pof that much so she gave me her phone number to text her. So how should i go about Texting her since i know hardly anything about her and on her profile all she has is quotes. I just dont want to bore her with interview-like questions.Any help would be appreciated.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Text opener to girl met online?
- Thread starter adamw5963
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
" throw your name at the bottom of the text
Tread with caution. I've found that women who hand out their number so quickly turn out to be really full on and/or fake. Personally I like to screen the people I talk to for a while.
If she makes an excuse about Facebook take it as a minor red flag. A lot of these chicks are on FB, but their POF photos aren't current, while her FB ones are much less flattering, or she could be in a relationship.
Of course, she could be telling the truth, but in that case you have to wonder about the drama she mentioned.
Personally, I'd spend a bit more time chatting to her on POF before giving out your number. But if you want to take a chance I'd say a simple "Hi, it's your POF friend Adam here. What you upto? x"
A simple introduction will get the ball rolling. Then you can go from there to asking what she does for work, hobbies, what she looks for in a man, if she's dated online before and then escalate to some flirtation and asking her out.
If she makes an excuse about Facebook take it as a minor red flag. A lot of these chicks are on FB, but their POF photos aren't current, while her FB ones are much less flattering, or she could be in a relationship.
Of course, she could be telling the truth, but in that case you have to wonder about the drama she mentioned.
Personally, I'd spend a bit more time chatting to her on POF before giving out your number. But if you want to take a chance I'd say a simple "Hi, it's your POF friend Adam here. What you upto? x"
A simple introduction will get the ball rolling. Then you can go from there to asking what she does for work, hobbies, what she looks for in a man, if she's dated online before and then escalate to some flirtation and asking her out.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.