Ok i met a girl last night on POF and we talked for like 5 min bc it was late, So i asked for her facebook but she said she deactivated it bc of drama and that she didnt get on pof that much so she gave me her phone number to text her. So how should i go about Texting her since i know hardly anything about her and on her profile all she has is quotes. I just dont want to bore her with interview-like questions.Any help would be appreciated.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Text opener to girl met online?
- Thread starter adamw5963
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
" throw your name at the bottom of the text
Tread with caution. I've found that women who hand out their number so quickly turn out to be really full on and/or fake. Personally I like to screen the people I talk to for a while.
If she makes an excuse about Facebook take it as a minor red flag. A lot of these chicks are on FB, but their POF photos aren't current, while her FB ones are much less flattering, or she could be in a relationship.
Of course, she could be telling the truth, but in that case you have to wonder about the drama she mentioned.
Personally, I'd spend a bit more time chatting to her on POF before giving out your number. But if you want to take a chance I'd say a simple "Hi, it's your POF friend Adam here. What you upto? x"
A simple introduction will get the ball rolling. Then you can go from there to asking what she does for work, hobbies, what she looks for in a man, if she's dated online before and then escalate to some flirtation and asking her out.
If she makes an excuse about Facebook take it as a minor red flag. A lot of these chicks are on FB, but their POF photos aren't current, while her FB ones are much less flattering, or she could be in a relationship.
Of course, she could be telling the truth, but in that case you have to wonder about the drama she mentioned.
Personally, I'd spend a bit more time chatting to her on POF before giving out your number. But if you want to take a chance I'd say a simple "Hi, it's your POF friend Adam here. What you upto? x"
A simple introduction will get the ball rolling. Then you can go from there to asking what she does for work, hobbies, what she looks for in a man, if she's dated online before and then escalate to some flirtation and asking her out.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.