Text back or not?

[mikey2012]

Me: hey
her: 24 hours later...hi
ME : wanna grab drinks tonight
her: Thanks but I have other plans

After this I didn't respond. This is sign of low interest. Delete and move on.... Dont waste another sec on this...

 

[doctor1996]

Pulled two.

Now I'll text both; 3 days later

 

[doctor1996]

I'm a little suspect about one.. I was talking with her, and I said I'll shoot you a text, what's your number? She said; what I heard like "no" at first.. But idk maybe I was nervous no clue but then she gave it to me and told me to text her.. Before leaving so I'm kind of suspect. Opinion guys?

I typically
Make eye contact with girls, but this one wasn't making eye contact. Not sure why.. Maybe disinterest.

 

[marmel75]

Pulled two.

Now I'll text both; 3 days later

The 3 day rule is still a thing? Honestly if you are worried about this you need to really get a better mindset. Its irrelevant when you text them. If you have the right mindset it doent matter

 

[doctor1996]

The 3 day rule is still a thing? Honestly if you are worried about this you need to really get a better mindset. Its irrelevant when you text them. If you have the right mindset it doent matter

Well what do you think? Some say, you'll appear needy if you text right away.

 

[marmel75]

I think it's nonsense. Neediness is not found out by the timeframe of when you text. If you are truly not needy you wont come across as needy. If you are eventually she will find out.

 

[devilkingx2]

3 days later

don't wait 3 days, text her the next day or hours later, don't make it look like you dropped everything or have nothing going in life but don't let her forget you so you have to do the rapport all over

 

[Glassguy]

Well what do you think? Some say, you'll appear needy if you text right away.

Stop over thinking everything. You'll drive yourself nuts. Text her hours later, the next day, whatever. Just make sure you use the text to set up a date.

If there is a good connection and high interest on her end it will be easy and be like clockwork. If her interest is low she will make it difficult (messaging and meeting up) and at that point you can withdraw some attention.

I'm not a fan of waiting literally days to text because its too rehearsed and corny. And frankly, I dont like following "rules" with dating.

You miss 100% of the shots you dont take.

 

[doctor1996]

Before I left she said, "text me!" so I mean, do you guys think I should send her a text haha its been like 12 hours...

See guys, I mean I don't pick up on cues this much. I mean I try not to overthink everything. But this girl in particular, I was making eye contact and her eyes weren't locking on mine, and I mean she gave me her number, but I just don't know if she was into me. I mean you guys say be able to tell then so you don't waste time. But I wasn't able to tell. All I know is, I want to sleep with her very badly. She is ideal.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Before I left she said, "text me!" so I mean, do you guys think I should send her a text haha its been like 12 hours...

See guys, I mean I don't pick up on cues this much. I mean I try not to overthink everything. But this girl in particular, I was making eye contact and her eyes weren't locking on mine, and I mean she gave me her number, but I just don't know if she was into me. I mean you guys say be able to tell then so you don't waste time. But I wasn't able to tell. All I know is, I want to sleep with her very badly. She is ideal.

If you're in college, invite her to a party or something.

 

[doctor1996]

If you're in college, invite her to a party or something.

I'm going out with a bunch of guys friday, and this girl thats really into me is coming along. I don't want to bring her when that day comes. Who knows whats gonna happen after 10-14 beers.. lol

 

[marmel75]

Before I left she said, "text me!" so I mean, do you guys think I should send her a text haha its been like 12 hours...

See guys, I mean I don't pick up on cues this much. I mean I try not to overthink everything. But this girl in particular, I was making eye contact and her eyes weren't locking on mine, and I mean she gave me her number, but I just don't know if she was into me. I mean you guys say be able to tell then so you don't waste time. But I wasn't able to tell. All I know is, I want to sleep with her very badly. She is ideal.

Stop overthinking things. Just stop it. Do what you want. Don't think about it. Just do it. Like Nike. Swoosh.

 

[marmel75]

Before I left she said, "text me!" so I mean, do you guys think I should send her a text haha its been like 12 hours...

See guys, I mean I don't pick up on cues this much. I mean I try not to overthink everything. But this girl in particular, I was making eye contact and her eyes weren't locking on mine, and I mean she gave me her number, but I just don't know if she was into me. I mean you guys say be able to tell then so you don't waste time. But I wasn't able to tell. All I know is, I want to sleep with her very badly. She is ideal.

How the hell do you know she is ideal? You don't know anything about her. Stop pedastalizing her before you've even gone out with her. THIS is why you are having issues. You are putting her value so much higher than yours that you then act like this around her and it drops her interest like a rock, if she was interested to begin with.

It's simple. You ask her out. All that is she interested/is she not nonsense will get figured out when you ask her and she either shows up on the date or cancels with you.

 

[RedScorpion]

All I know is, I want to sleep with her very badly. She is ideal.

I've been here before. It's a bad spot to put yourself in. You'll be too focused on whether or not things are going well between you - and suddenly things aren't going well.

Honestly - try not to care at all about it. Suppress those emotions and overamp'd desires right up until she's actually naked in front of you. Not before. Emotional control is so critical.

 

[doctor1996]

I feel like shes going to get pissed at me now, I'm texting the other one.. but the one I really want I didn't text yet

 

[dustmuffin]

Ask her out. She replied with hi. How much effort on your part will a lets get drinks Monday or Tuesday take ? She either will or she won't. It dose not matter. Take action. Move on if she isn't interested. There are plenty of women that will go out with you.

 

[doctor1996]

Ask her out. She replied with hi. How much effort on your part will a lets get drinks Monday or Tuesday take ? She either will or she won't. It dose not matter. Take action. Move on if she isn't interested. There are plenty of women that will go out with you.

No these are two different girls now

 

[dustmuffin]

No these are two different girls now

Well ask one of them out!

 

[RichardTheFrog]

out!

What is the point of going "out?" I'm more of an "in" person.

 

[doctor1996]

Well ask one of them out!

Haven't been built rapport, and didn't text the other one