"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Text back or not?

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Me: hey
her: 24 hours later...hi;)
ME : wanna grab drinks tonight
her: Thanks but I have other plans

After this I didn't respond. This is sign of low interest. Delete and move on.... Dont waste another sec on this...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm a little suspect about one.. I was talking with her, and I said I'll shoot you a text, what's your number? She said; what I heard like "no" at first.. But idk maybe I was nervous no clue but then she gave it to me and told me to text her.. Before leaving so I'm kind of suspect. Opinion guys?

I typically
Make eye contact with girls, but this one wasn't making eye contact. Not sure why.. Maybe disinterest.
 
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doctor1996 said:
Pulled two.

Now I'll text both; 3 days later
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The 3 day rule is still a thing? Honestly if you are worried about this you need to really get a better mindset. Its irrelevant when you text them. If you have the right mindset it doent matter
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I think it's nonsense. Neediness is not found out by the timeframe of when you text. If you are truly not needy you wont come across as needy. If you are eventually she will find out.
 
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don't wait 3 days, text her the next day or hours later, don't make it look like you dropped everything or have nothing going in life but don't let her forget you so you have to do the rapport all over
 
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doctor1996 said:
Well what do you think? Some say, you'll appear needy if you text right away.
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Stop over thinking everything. You'll drive yourself nuts. Text her hours later, the next day, whatever. Just make sure you use the text to set up a date.

If there is a good connection and high interest on her end it will be easy and be like clockwork. If her interest is low she will make it difficult (messaging and meeting up) and at that point you can withdraw some attention.

I'm not a fan of waiting literally days to text because its too rehearsed and corny. And frankly, I dont like following "rules" with dating.

You miss 100% of the shots you dont take.
 
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Before I left she said, "text me!" so I mean, do you guys think I should send her a text haha its been like 12 hours...

See guys, I mean I don't pick up on cues this much. I mean I try not to overthink everything. But this girl in particular, I was making eye contact and her eyes weren't locking on mine, and I mean she gave me her number, but I just don't know if she was into me. I mean you guys say be able to tell then so you don't waste time. But I wasn't able to tell. All I know is, I want to sleep with her very badly. She is ideal.
 
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doctor1996 said:
Before I left she said, "text me!" so I mean, do you guys think I should send her a text haha its been like 12 hours...

See guys, I mean I don't pick up on cues this much. I mean I try not to overthink everything. But this girl in particular, I was making eye contact and her eyes weren't locking on mine, and I mean she gave me her number, but I just don't know if she was into me. I mean you guys say be able to tell then so you don't waste time. But I wasn't able to tell. All I know is, I want to sleep with her very badly. She is ideal.
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If you're in college, invite her to a party or something.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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doctor1996 said:
Before I left she said, "text me!" so I mean, do you guys think I should send her a text haha its been like 12 hours...

See guys, I mean I don't pick up on cues this much. I mean I try not to overthink everything. But this girl in particular, I was making eye contact and her eyes weren't locking on mine, and I mean she gave me her number, but I just don't know if she was into me. I mean you guys say be able to tell then so you don't waste time. But I wasn't able to tell. All I know is, I want to sleep with her very badly. She is ideal.
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Stop overthinking things. Just stop it. Do what you want. Don't think about it. Just do it. Like Nike. Swoosh.
 
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doctor1996 said:
Before I left she said, "text me!" so I mean, do you guys think I should send her a text haha its been like 12 hours...

See guys, I mean I don't pick up on cues this much. I mean I try not to overthink everything. But this girl in particular, I was making eye contact and her eyes weren't locking on mine, and I mean she gave me her number, but I just don't know if she was into me. I mean you guys say be able to tell then so you don't waste time. But I wasn't able to tell. All I know is, I want to sleep with her very badly. She is ideal.
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How the hell do you know she is ideal? You don't know anything about her. Stop pedastalizing her before you've even gone out with her. THIS is why you are having issues. You are putting her value so much higher than yours that you then act like this around her and it drops her interest like a rock, if she was interested to begin with.

It's simple. You ask her out. All that is she interested/is she not nonsense will get figured out when you ask her and she either shows up on the date or cancels with you.
 
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doctor1996 said:
All I know is, I want to sleep with her very badly. She is ideal.
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I've been here before. It's a bad spot to put yourself in. You'll be too focused on whether or not things are going well between you - and suddenly things aren't going well.

Honestly - try not to care at all about it. Suppress those emotions and overamp'd desires right up until she's actually naked in front of you. Not before. Emotional control is so critical.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ask her out. She replied with hi. How much effort on your part will a lets get drinks Monday or Tuesday take ? She either will or she won't. It dose not matter. Take action. Move on if she isn't interested. There are plenty of women that will go out with you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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