"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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cyjay201

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We all know girls do em, such as cancelling a date at the last second, or getting mad at your for no freaking reason. I've had a number of girls cancel dates on me, I usually just act laid back, and pretend that I don't give a ****, but at the same time I use sarcasm to show I won't put up with their B.S. Then I cut the conversation short over the phone with the line "I'm actually in the middle of something, so I've gotta go."

This has worked pretty well for me, I usually get another call from them first in the next couple of days, and usually meet up at least once and go from there.

Fellow DJ's, please post your method when a girl **** tests you.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hold up there buddy. If a girl cancels a date on you at the last second, chances are she's not interested in you and was too shy to tell you earlier so she resorts to last minute bailing.

Anyway, I dont consider that a sh#t test. Thats more like a 'dont call me again' test. Give a good example of a sh#t test and i'll give you my typical response.
 
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Originally posted by Wiesman44
Hold up there buddy. If a girl cancels a date on you at the last second, chances are she's not interested in you and was too shy to tell you earlier so she resorts to last minute bailing.

Anyway, I dont consider that a sh#t test. Thats more like a 'dont call me again' test. Give a good example of a sh#t test and i'll give you my typical response.
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Well I always considered this a **** test.....b/c with this girl I gave her the idea I was a little pissed, but didnt give a ****, and she actually called me back a couple days later.

I thought this was considered a **** test just b/c some HB's want to see how you react when they flake you? Am I wrong here?
 
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I expect them to all do things like that so I never really get heated over it.

As long you realize they all do this,I guess you're ok.Honestly I just roll with the punches.
 
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I'm not saying she's definitely not interested, but its a damn good indicator if she's not. I'd call again just to be sure. But, a girl is not going to cancel a date on you JUST to see how you react. Girls don't think that way. Now maybe she had a decent reason for canceling. Now she's not going to pay attention too much to how you react to it, but she will notice if you act AFC.

IMO, don't act like you don't give a **** that she cancelled, but don't be completely heart-broken over it either. Find a happy medium and you're golden.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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there could be several reasons for this
1. she doesnt want to go out with you and waited till the last minute
2. shes testing you
3. she has a valid reason for cancelling

just go with it. i usually dont call them back after that. if they want to talk to me, then they can call me


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