"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Testing your SMV on OLD

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Exactly. So I don't need online dating since I'll see them out and about at the popular venues anyway. It's redundant and therefore a waste of time.

Plus, I don't need to approach them, since they'll approach me. Why should I bother? :)

Use some common sense. If a woman has to rely on online dating, it's because she's not getting very many offers IRL. If she's not getting many offers IRL, it's because a) she's not attractive enough, and/or b) she's older. Wading through a pool of leftovers is pointless and depressing.

If you like dating older women and/or not so attractive women, be my guest.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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touma.akagi

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Just because gay guys find a man attractive doesn't mean straight women will. Many do like the same things a woman wants, but still. You wouldn't use a US best seller list to judge how well a book will do in Europe.

If you're setting up catfish profiles on grindr, you have too much free time.
 

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OLD is a waste of time. Just go out to a popular spot and meet women INSTANTANEOUSLY. Y'all are wasting time hiring professional photogs, more hours with photoshop, waiting weeks to get feedback on your virtual smv, and then and only then do you have confidence to actually talk to women lol. Just go out and approach women.
The fact is that a lot of women on OLD are attention wh ores, and many of them...
  • have no intentions of meeting the guys who message them
  • are "there to make friends," (in Bumble's case, why are you here when the app has a separate section for BFF)
  • are cam girls running a ****ty business
Is OLD a waste of time? Not for all men. Like I've said: if it's not a profitable stream of women anymore, you should stop using it. If it is, don't stop.
 

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Once again, you’re projecting your OLD experience onto me.
I have no idea what you're talking about. Bye.

The fact is that a lot of women on OLD are attention wh ores, and many of them...
  • have no intentions of meeting the guys who message them
  • are "there to make friends," (in Bumble's case, why are you here when the app has a separate section for BFF)
  • are cam girls running a ****ty business
Is OLD a waste of time? Not for all men. Like I've said: if it's not a profitable stream of women anymore, you should stop using it. If it is, don't stop.
It's fine if you don't mind dating a younger girl with a cute face and a few (maybe a lot of) extra pounds, or women who are older (30+).
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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No, I just don’t take kindly to people who belittle me for experiences that aren’t even my own.

If you were capable of getting the attention of attractive women online who aren’t old, fat and or short on options, we wouldn’t be having this discussion and you know it.
No one's belittling you, that's a figment of your imagination. Your overly fragile ego is taking general observations about online dating as a personal insult. That's your problem, not mine. :)
 

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You couldn't resist and just needed to bring this up didn't you...
I didn't bring it up, I was just wondering how that worked.
 

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I didn't bring it up, I was just wondering how that worked.
How it works exactly? I don't know. But so far my recorded data in my journal is showing me no fap equals more matches. Can't argue with the data
 
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