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Okay so me and my gf are on the phone and she tells me that she's going to the cinema on monday with her friend craig. Now i dont know the guy because its one of her friends im normally laid back and She tells me all the details of what shes going to see etc and i just said "cool, so anyways"

so would you say this is a test to see if i get jealous?
Reason i think this is because of the way she mentioned it just out of no were, either way i aint worried.
 

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To be honest if my gf ever went out somewhere with a man to the movies or ANYWHERE, i would dump dump her azz. I couldn't even handle her talking to a man on the phone i almost kicked his azz the next day but she stopped me.
 
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DJsparky,

Personally, I'm not sure that I agree with the term, test. I don't think she has made a concious decision to 'test' you.

From my experience though, you did handle this 'test' well.

You won't often get the results of your test, but occasionally you will.

For example, with a girl that I'm seeing now, we're sitting talking about all sorts of things. I can't remember the conversation so well, but she mentioned that I don't get jealous - read: I'm secure.

It was the results of much 'testing'. But as its not a concious decision, your girl, and my girl alike will not initially realise, "hey, this guy is really secure." its only after passing many tests like these that it will suddenly click in their head.

Well played. Keep it up. Don't fret about Craig. He'll probably pay for her movie, and pop corn, she'll receive some emotional fulfillment and some receiving of goods (movies/pop corn) fulfillment which all girls have. At no cost to you.

Exellent.

Keep playing how your playing and make sure this girl is worth your time.

Best of luck.

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mr_elor said:
Yeah, I'd say it was a test. If you'd acted flustered and were blatantly bothered then you would have 'failed' and looked insecure (which we all know is definitely not attractive).

Remember that you're the great catch, so you could have any woman you want. Therefore why would it matter if she takes a friend - albeit a male one - to the cinema. You won't be worried because if the worst were to happen (and it won't) then you could quite easily find yourself another girl.
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Dead on. Good input.
 
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