"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Test?

DJsparky

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Okay so me and my gf are on the phone and she tells me that she's going to the cinema on monday with her friend craig. Now i dont know the guy because its one of her friends im normally laid back and She tells me all the details of what shes going to see etc and i just said "cool, so anyways"

so would you say this is a test to see if i get jealous?
Reason i think this is because of the way she mentioned it just out of no were, either way i aint worried.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DasaniWater

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To be honest if my gf ever went out somewhere with a man to the movies or ANYWHERE, i would dump dump her azz. I couldn't even handle her talking to a man on the phone i almost kicked his azz the next day but she stopped me.
 

three12

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DJsparky,

Personally, I'm not sure that I agree with the term, test. I don't think she has made a concious decision to 'test' you.

From my experience though, you did handle this 'test' well.

You won't often get the results of your test, but occasionally you will.

For example, with a girl that I'm seeing now, we're sitting talking about all sorts of things. I can't remember the conversation so well, but she mentioned that I don't get jealous - read: I'm secure.

It was the results of much 'testing'. But as its not a concious decision, your girl, and my girl alike will not initially realise, "hey, this guy is really secure." its only after passing many tests like these that it will suddenly click in their head.

Well played. Keep it up. Don't fret about Craig. He'll probably pay for her movie, and pop corn, she'll receive some emotional fulfillment and some receiving of goods (movies/pop corn) fulfillment which all girls have. At no cost to you.

Exellent.

Keep playing how your playing and make sure this girl is worth your time.

Best of luck.

three12.
 

blinkwatt

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mr_elor said:
Yeah, I'd say it was a test. If you'd acted flustered and were blatantly bothered then you would have 'failed' and looked insecure (which we all know is definitely not attractive).

Remember that you're the great catch, so you could have any woman you want. Therefore why would it matter if she takes a friend - albeit a male one - to the cinema. You won't be worried because if the worst were to happen (and it won't) then you could quite easily find yourself another girl.
Dead on. Good input.
 
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