"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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catnip

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Have question about comment from chicks I date, chat with that comes out of the blue that confuses me. I'm a RAFC and NOT married but still learning. The chick
will say " Are you married?" or " Your married with kids right?" I'm 28 and wondering WTF am I giving off AFC stench?? Or is this normal part of the game?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LuckyStrike

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I wouldn't take it the wrong way. She is probably wondering if you're available or not. Look at it this way, she wouldn't ask if she didn't care...
 

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Those are just standard questions. No biggie - just answer them if they come up.
 

RAFCbearfilm

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Catnip,
That seems a little too short of a description to give a more complete answer but I would think at 28, there are probably a fair amount of married guys they are exposed to and if they are still single, they might be getting "tricked" a lot in likeing guys and finding them married.
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You are such a fantastic "catch" thay they are just assuming you would have already been "caught"!
More info might chnage my answer, but I would think it is just a screening question in general. The older you get, the smaller the pool becomes to swim in! Until your 30's when all the divorcee's start to show up with kids in tow.
 

Chrispy

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Sounds like you did well on your date...you're 'marrying material' in her opinion so play it cool, and let her down gently if you just want to play :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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catnip

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Thanks for insight

Thanks guys for your insight. Since I'm still learning just don't want to be put on the '' make him wait for sex section'' too
long.
 
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