"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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catnip

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Have question about comment from chicks I date, chat with that comes out of the blue that confuses me. I'm a RAFC and NOT married but still learning. The chick
will say " Are you married?" or " Your married with kids right?" I'm 28 and wondering WTF am I giving off AFC stench?? Or is this normal part of the game?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I wouldn't take it the wrong way. She is probably wondering if you're available or not. Look at it this way, she wouldn't ask if she didn't care...
 

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Those are just standard questions. No biggie - just answer them if they come up.
 

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Catnip,
That seems a little too short of a description to give a more complete answer but I would think at 28, there are probably a fair amount of married guys they are exposed to and if they are still single, they might be getting "tricked" a lot in likeing guys and finding them married.
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You are such a fantastic "catch" thay they are just assuming you would have already been "caught"!
More info might chnage my answer, but I would think it is just a screening question in general. The older you get, the smaller the pool becomes to swim in! Until your 30's when all the divorcee's start to show up with kids in tow.
 

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Sounds like you did well on your date...you're 'marrying material' in her opinion so play it cool, and let her down gently if you just want to play :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Thanks for insight

Thanks guys for your insight. Since I'm still learning just don't want to be put on the '' make him wait for sex section'' too
long.
 
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