"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I may have to move in a few weeks and just got involved in a relationship with a chick - it was a very crazy night :D. Is there such thing as just having a temp. g/f ?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Nope, basically the timeline goes:

# Night Stand
Short-term
Long-term
Married
 

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I would call this a short term(a few weeks to a couple of months?)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Bull****. Yes, have a temporary girlfriend.

I have one, it's nice, I like it.

Forget all this wannabe player bull****, it's unnatural. AFC? Oneitis? Who gives a ****?

I say, stop caring what's "cool" or smart, or the "DJ" thing to do.

Follow your emotions, don't be scared of them.

I say, if you take advice from some idiots from a message board, then you deserve to be shot.
 

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Originally posted by Metalixia
Bull****. Yes, have a temporary girlfriend.

I have one, it's nice, I like it.

Forget all this wannabe player bull****, it's unnatural. AFC? Oneitis? Who gives a ****?

I say, stop caring what's "cool" or smart, or the "DJ" thing to do.

Follow your emotions, don't be scared of them.

I say, if you take advice from some idiots from a message board, then you deserve to be shot.
Get any action lately? Lol
 

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Yeah. From being myself... all this pretending, it's pointless man.

The real lessons are on the street, in the wind; in the tears from bitter break-ups, and cold winter nights spent yearning for something you try and deny yourselfs because some stupid **** thinks it ain't cool.

Have a temporary girlfriend. Feel the bittersweetness when you both go your seperate ways. Fall deeply in love with her, and then feel then nourishing sadness you get whenever you think of her. It's far more interesting that walking up to some slag and asking her number, cause a groups of wankers think it makes you a cool "DJ".
 

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lol reminds me of a mate of mine that hooked up with a girl a month or 2 before he was moving interstate ,

basically he said he was moving interstate , they got along well and he said if she wants she can move with him or stay there

she moved with him and lasted a week as she was missing mum and moved back home, ( she was young and immature)

personally cant see any reason why she cant be a short term gf , as long as you are upfront about whats going on then there is no probs when you do move , never know what the future might hold for you both
 

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Originally posted by Metalixia
Yeah. From being myself... all this pretending, it's pointless man.

The real lessons are on the street, in the wind; in the tears from bitter break-ups, and cold winter nights spent yearning for something you try and deny yourselfs because some stupid **** thinks it ain't cool.

Have a temporary girlfriend. Feel the bittersweetness when you both go your seperate ways. Fall deeply in love with her, and then feel then nourishing sadness you get whenever you think of her. It's far more interesting that walking up to some slag and asking her number, cause a groups of wankers think it makes you a cool "DJ".
Yeah....

life is a lot less romantic than you think, and I don't see why you would purposefully cause yourself the heartbreak of getting attached and losing it. That shyt hurts, don't do it on purpose to learn a "real lesson"
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by TxCowboy
I may have to move in a few weeks and just got involved in a relationship with a chick - it was a very crazy night :D. Is there such thing as just having a temp. g/f ?
Either leave the chick alone right now, or keep hitting it for the next few weeks until you leave. But she can't be your GF, which you shouldnt be considering in the first place even if you werent leaving town. Especially after one night.
 

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Hehe .... yeah , I was a little soused on the dance floor when I asked her out. I really dont know wtf i was thinking but the words just spouted out. I'll think I'll give it till Saturday .... that sounds good , then just give her the lets be friends speech and tell her I have to move ?

Thanks for all the input !
 
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