"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Temporary G/F

TxCowboy

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I may have to move in a few weeks and just got involved in a relationship with a chick - it was a very crazy night :D. Is there such thing as just having a temp. g/f ?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Nope, basically the timeline goes:

# Night Stand
Short-term
Long-term
Married
 

brenbaus

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I would call this a short term(a few weeks to a couple of months?)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Metalixia

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Bull****. Yes, have a temporary girlfriend.

I have one, it's nice, I like it.

Forget all this wannabe player bull****, it's unnatural. AFC? Oneitis? Who gives a ****?

I say, stop caring what's "cool" or smart, or the "DJ" thing to do.

Follow your emotions, don't be scared of them.

I say, if you take advice from some idiots from a message board, then you deserve to be shot.
 

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Originally posted by Metalixia
Bull****. Yes, have a temporary girlfriend.

I have one, it's nice, I like it.

Forget all this wannabe player bull****, it's unnatural. AFC? Oneitis? Who gives a ****?

I say, stop caring what's "cool" or smart, or the "DJ" thing to do.

Follow your emotions, don't be scared of them.

I say, if you take advice from some idiots from a message board, then you deserve to be shot.
Get any action lately? Lol
 

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Yeah. From being myself... all this pretending, it's pointless man.

The real lessons are on the street, in the wind; in the tears from bitter break-ups, and cold winter nights spent yearning for something you try and deny yourselfs because some stupid **** thinks it ain't cool.

Have a temporary girlfriend. Feel the bittersweetness when you both go your seperate ways. Fall deeply in love with her, and then feel then nourishing sadness you get whenever you think of her. It's far more interesting that walking up to some slag and asking her number, cause a groups of wankers think it makes you a cool "DJ".
 

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lol reminds me of a mate of mine that hooked up with a girl a month or 2 before he was moving interstate ,

basically he said he was moving interstate , they got along well and he said if she wants she can move with him or stay there

she moved with him and lasted a week as she was missing mum and moved back home, ( she was young and immature)

personally cant see any reason why she cant be a short term gf , as long as you are upfront about whats going on then there is no probs when you do move , never know what the future might hold for you both
 

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Originally posted by Metalixia
Yeah. From being myself... all this pretending, it's pointless man.

The real lessons are on the street, in the wind; in the tears from bitter break-ups, and cold winter nights spent yearning for something you try and deny yourselfs because some stupid **** thinks it ain't cool.

Have a temporary girlfriend. Feel the bittersweetness when you both go your seperate ways. Fall deeply in love with her, and then feel then nourishing sadness you get whenever you think of her. It's far more interesting that walking up to some slag and asking her number, cause a groups of wankers think it makes you a cool "DJ".
Yeah....

life is a lot less romantic than you think, and I don't see why you would purposefully cause yourself the heartbreak of getting attached and losing it. That shyt hurts, don't do it on purpose to learn a "real lesson"
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by TxCowboy
I may have to move in a few weeks and just got involved in a relationship with a chick - it was a very crazy night :D. Is there such thing as just having a temp. g/f ?
Either leave the chick alone right now, or keep hitting it for the next few weeks until you leave. But she can't be your GF, which you shouldnt be considering in the first place even if you werent leaving town. Especially after one night.
 

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Hehe .... yeah , I was a little soused on the dance floor when I asked her out. I really dont know wtf i was thinking but the words just spouted out. I'll think I'll give it till Saturday .... that sounds good , then just give her the lets be friends speech and tell her I have to move ?

Thanks for all the input !
 
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