Telling some painful personal story to the girl you like?

[sosousage]

Now it probably wont make ugly guy appear attractive, and u dont need it most likely


But some girls tell me supposedly personal things (that i wouldnt tell, lol) like:

"my brother died and teachers let me write easier exams or not write them at all, whole class was looking at me like i am idiot and I decided to change school"

"im also <insert many negative or sad traits here>"


do they get more infatuated with you if you two share some personal painful secret or something?


Because as far as I know, saying youre "bad" at something, or worse than others, or untalented, will give you MINUS POINTS, not vice versa


but maybe theres a thing or two about this sharing secret stuff




PS, i just realized one of my ex long ago checked my fb and realized i cheated on her, i think it helped our relationship last longer (no joke, im 100% serious, her knowing i cheated on her make her think im hot catch and stayed with me longer)

 

[backseatjuan]

2 make her fvck u? Dont work.

 

[SoSuave666]

Vulnerability game has its usefulness but in general I would stay away. It’s best to keep things light, fun, sexual.

 

[sazc]

No. Vulnerable stories, and vulnerability in general, should not be given spontaneously, should be given in small doses, over time, and wait 6 months or more until they surface.

Main rule of thumb - never offer. If the conversation comes up, disclose a bit. Do not overwhelm. Vulnerability is great for bonding but, used incorrectly, will have her seeing you as a victim, instead of a man.

 

[Spaz]

Women will always want to pry out ur vulnerability.

I've never given away mine.

This is part and parcel of being a man - the ability to rise to the occasion when shiet hits the fan.

 

[backseatjuan]

Damn, it appears to me spaz is stolking sazc.

 

[Spaz]

Damn, it appears to me spaz is stolking sazc.

You PM'ed me asking for her phone number 2 days ago.

Now you're having delusions about me and her ?

Seriously man get a grip of yourself.

 

[backseatjuan]

I'm not having delusions man. I just see her post and then after her you post. That's all.

 

[Spaz]

Then by ur logic I must be stalking plenty of other people too and they me.

Just like after I posted....you posted.

R u stalking me?

This is a forum dude where people post and if it so happens after another poster it's coincidental.

 

[Ranger]

Now it probably wont make ugly guy appear attractive, and u dont need it most likely


But some girls tell me supposedly personal things (that i wouldnt tell, lol) like:

"my brother died and teachers let me write easier exams or not write them at all, whole class was looking at me like i am idiot and I decided to change school"

"im also <insert many negative or sad traits here>"


do they get more infatuated with you if you two share some personal painful secret or something?


Because as far as I know, saying youre "bad" at something, or worse than others, or untalented, will give you MINUS POINTS, not vice versa


but maybe theres a thing or two about this sharing secret stuff




PS, i just realized one of my ex long ago checked my fb and realized i cheated on her, i think it helped our relationship last longer (no joke, im 100% serious, her knowing i cheated on her make her think im hot catch and stayed with me longer)

There is an element of the rogue/dominant male who has a soft, even hurt/damaged side that she wants to work to uncover.
It’s a measure of her self worth to work to find out that thing that made him who he is.
He pushes her away yet she “knows” there’s something in him that she has to know.

She finally uncovers some truth during a kiss or just before. He then falls for her and then there is love.
It’s called a romance novel.

Yes women want that. Some desperately. But you have to keep it from her and maybe hinting at sometimes. You can be cold and yet soft.

Sure. A man could pull that off. But you have to make her work to find out your deepest secrets. Just spilling them will most likely not work.