"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Telling a girl that you want to kiss her; pretty much a lost cause?

NewGuy72

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Was hanging with this girl, and a couple other people. I leaned in to tell her something and I could tell that she thought I was doing something else. I asked her later if she thought I was gonna kiss her, which of course she thought (not surprising since we flirt a lot, but didn't want to do it in front of those guys, for reasons I don't want to go into). I then told her I've thought about it but never did (for the previously mentioned reasons, didn't tell her what they were).

Not that all this matters much since I won't be living near her for much longer (less than a week), but I wouldn't mind actually kissing her before then (I know we're hanging out again). You guys think this is a lost cause? She already knows I like her (obviously) and she appears to like me (though she is still with some guy, but it sounds pretty sketchy).
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Ice882

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Listen to Nike and Just Do It.
 

IKO69

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Yeah don't ask. It just seems so cheesy. If you were asking to please pass the ketchup that's one thing but a kiss is so much different.
 

scrouds

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Newguy, you're not a lost cause, just need some work.

just kiss her already. If you need to know before you go, touching her face or her hair and she doesn't object to that, you should be good to move in for the kiss.
 

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Yes. Just do it seriously it's easy. Brush up against her and touch her a bit on the side, kinda hold her, use light kino if she doesn't object slowly move in. It's easier when laying down for this explanation but it works standing too. Slowly move your face into her kinda smile get her to smile too, then wiggle your nose into her and crack up. then move your mouth a bit down up to hers and she'll ease herself and you'll begin kissing.

That's what I did recently and it worked like a charm.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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mpimpin

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Listen to these guys and give it a shot. If she doesn't want to kiss she will back away.
Actions speak louder then words
 

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