"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Telling a gal you like her without going AFC

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Jizz

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Need some pointers on this, obviously the main one is kino and kissing but this is for a gal online who you only speak to on the phone/msn/text

i wanna tell her i like her, but dont wanna sound afc, or even better i wanna know if she likes me and not give away the fact i like her, anything i could ask or say to do this?

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Buy her a diamond necklace. Spend at least $1000.
 

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Originally posted by Jizz
...i wanna tell her i like her, but dont wanna sound afc, or even better i wanna know if she likes me and not give away the fact i like her, anything i could ask or say to do this?...
don't

how do you know you like her? how can you know you like her? you're on the internet. internet don't count, only face to face does. you can't know didly based on the internet, that's just a fantasy you're grooving on

get off the internet and get together with her in person, that's when you'll get real info

tell her by eye contact, smiling, etc.
she'll do something similar

but then, ask why you find it so important for the next step to be to tell her you like her and you want to see reciprocation?

think about that for the moment.

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Ok, doubt you did take time to think about that for the moment, so just the way you phrase it makes it sound you're following the well well-grooved AFC trail down into Let's-Be-Friends Valley (aka Death Valley aka Lonely Wanker Valley aka Sad Puppy Howling At the Moon Valley aka...)

Sure - at some point you give indication you like them (eye contact, smiling, asking them for a date, etc.) and they give indication to you (smiling, eye contact, saying yes to a date) but this "I like you, do you like me?" is for kids.
 

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I have met her and she is intrested, but some other guy wants her too who lives closer to her than me, shes reluctant to meet up with me again atm because of lack of money but i need to get ahead of this other guy,

how do i let her know im intrested in more than just hooking up with her? how do i let her know im a better option than this other guy
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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your still thinking afc

go out, make mistakes, come back in a couple years
 
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