"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Telling a gal you like her without going AFC

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Jizz

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Need some pointers on this, obviously the main one is kino and kissing but this is for a gal online who you only speak to on the phone/msn/text

i wanna tell her i like her, but dont wanna sound afc, or even better i wanna know if she likes me and not give away the fact i like her, anything i could ask or say to do this?

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Buy her a diamond necklace. Spend at least $1000.
 

TesuqueRed

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Originally posted by Jizz
...i wanna tell her i like her, but dont wanna sound afc, or even better i wanna know if she likes me and not give away the fact i like her, anything i could ask or say to do this?...
don't

how do you know you like her? how can you know you like her? you're on the internet. internet don't count, only face to face does. you can't know didly based on the internet, that's just a fantasy you're grooving on

get off the internet and get together with her in person, that's when you'll get real info

tell her by eye contact, smiling, etc.
she'll do something similar

but then, ask why you find it so important for the next step to be to tell her you like her and you want to see reciprocation?

think about that for the moment.

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Ok, doubt you did take time to think about that for the moment, so just the way you phrase it makes it sound you're following the well well-grooved AFC trail down into Let's-Be-Friends Valley (aka Death Valley aka Lonely Wanker Valley aka Sad Puppy Howling At the Moon Valley aka...)

Sure - at some point you give indication you like them (eye contact, smiling, asking them for a date, etc.) and they give indication to you (smiling, eye contact, saying yes to a date) but this "I like you, do you like me?" is for kids.
 

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I have met her and she is intrested, but some other guy wants her too who lives closer to her than me, shes reluctant to meet up with me again atm because of lack of money but i need to get ahead of this other guy,

how do i let her know im intrested in more than just hooking up with her? how do i let her know im a better option than this other guy
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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your still thinking afc

go out, make mistakes, come back in a couple years
 
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