"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Tell tale signs of in the "friend zone"

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Looking for a laundry list of phrases/actions that girls do that has you know.. that you're in the dreaded zone.

I am looking to compile a list for a document I am writing, looking for people's input, would be appreciated.

I know of a few.


1. She calls you/you call her all the time.

2. She uses you as a emotional tampon. "Oh, my b/f does blah blah."

3. Talks about other guys she is interested in.

Thanks guys.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I never really had thought to keep a list.

The only indication that I use to know that I am in the friend zone is when she treats me like a friend on "her terms" and not my terms...

It's not bad to be friends with girls, just make sure that the girls know through your actions that 'friendship is earned' and that they can blow that at any time by the way they treat you.
 

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1. Not fvcking her.
2. Not fvcking her.
3. Not fvcking her.
4. Seeing her underwear, and not fvcking her.
 

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Originally posted by rgeere
I never really had thought to keep a list.
I think its more or less a good thing to have.. that way you aren't falling into the traps.

You see the list.. and you can see what to avoid, at all costs.
 

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No, actually I don't see it as important because I only make friends with girls on my terms, meaning that there is going to be sex involved. Otherwise I just blow the girl off or use her as social proof; no way in sams hell am I going to be friends with a girl on solely her terms.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by JasonR
1. Not fvcking her.
2. Not fvcking her.
3. Not fvcking her.
4. Seeing her underwear, and not fvcking her.
Actually, its quite possible to be friends with a girl and fvcking her socks off. It's what they call a fvck-buddy or sometimes within an LTR. It's just that with a fvck-buddy or LTR you both have decided that sex is going to happen along with some sort of friendship or just sex.
 
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