Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
A lot of us don't want pretentious women.No woman with the slightest pretension to elegance or style would touch you with a barge pole!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Maybe about fifteen, twenty, twenty-five years ago, possibly yes, but now 2013 going on 2014, HELL-TO-NAW. The main thing that attracts chicks to "bad boys," are their contrarian, non-conformist view of society. They're the personification of the Sinatra classic, "My Way." Being a "bad boy," is about attitude, mannerisms, and aura you project. If you think that having a few tats is going to get you more ass, then your sadly mistaken because chicks (with their intuitive selves,) with quickly see through the facade.Scormus said:Discuss please. All else equal, do they help bestow the bad boy vibe that will help me get laid more?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I think you might be surprised how many women actually DO feel that way. But the women who feel that way tend to be trashy.I seriously doubt you could describe ANY situation where NOT having a tat would be THE ONLY deal breaker.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
This. I think tattoos appeal to most women on some level, but I'm not a big fan, or maybe I just have nothing so important in my life that it needs to be permanently etched into my skin.zekko said:I hate tattoos myself. I think they're trashy and find the idea of putting permanent pictures on your body to be idiotic.
That said, I have to admit girls seem to like them. If nothing else, they make for good peacock items/conversation pieces.
It depends on your styling, ages, lifestyle, no body can tell you in advance. Some people are adorable even without hair (bald) and women loves them, some have a lot of hair fancy haircut and don't have too much luck with females. So it is only on you to understand did they fits into your style or you will look silly. Just my (honest) 2 centsScormus said:Discuss please. All else equal, do they help bestow the bad boy vibe that will help me get laid more?