"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Talks Wayy Too Much...

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Alright so I was helping my friend study when he logs on his and his wifes myspace, I noticed this girl on their friendslist and said she was hot. To sum things up he told his wife who is friends with her and she got my number and we've been talking. I dont have a myspace so I emailed her pics. Started talking yesterday and today I met her while she was on break at work. Anyways she says Im cute and theres def signs of interest but the main problem here is she talks wayy too much. I mean she'll just go on and on and wont even let me get a few words in. I just got of the phone with her-after 3 hrs-(I know bad thing to do) I told her I had to get some sleep. ANyways this girl is a virgin and seems to be an overall good girl though whos been in too many relationships with guys just trying to get her in bed. She pretty much told me about all and I mean all her past relationships. Anyways just venting here-trying to decide if I wanna persue anything with this girl-any input on the talking too much or anything else?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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amnbyrd said:
Alright so I was helping my friend study when he logs on his and his wifes myspace, I noticed this girl on their friendslist and said she was hot. To sum things up he told his wife who is friends with her and she got my number and we've been talking. I dont have a myspace so I emailed her pics. Started talking yesterday and today I met her while she was on break at work. Anyways she says Im cute and theres def signs of interest but the main problem here is she talks wayy too much. I mean she'll just go on and on and wont even let me get a few words in. I just got of the phone with her-after 3 hrs-(I know bad thing to do) I told her I had to get some sleep. ANyways this girl is a virgin and seems to be an overall good girl though whos been in too many relationships with guys just trying to get her in bed. She pretty much told me about all and I mean all her past relationships. Anyways just venting here-trying to decide if I wanna persue anything with this girl-any input on the talking too much or anything else?
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three hours on a phone???? and you say know a bad thing to do? clearly not, by staying on the phone for 3 hours you just shown that you have way to much time on your hand. allways get down to seeing someone in person have a drink somewhere, if she then sill keeps talking on and on and on.. than you either change the subject or you bail
 
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I'm not even going to help you because I know your not going to do what we say. Your post screams "I want to go to AFC'ville, can you help me get there"
 
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I dated a girl once who was so boring. We would sit there, and I would talk, and it was like I was talking to a brick wall. I guess you could be thankful she has something to say.

You need to control the frame though, dude. Once you tell her you have to go, then go. Don't stay on the phone with any chick more than TEN minutes. If she wants to talk, it should be face to face. Also, the more information you give her about yourself over the phone, the less interesting you'll be when you meet her.
 
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ANyways this girl is a virgin and seems to be an overall good girl though whos been in too many relationships with guys just trying to get her in bed.
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What you just said here doesn't add up.

How can she still be a virgin if she has been in so many relationships?! I doubt she is telling the truth.

aren't you trying to get her in bed too?! because if you aren't then there is something wrong with you too.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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When a girl tells you about her past relationships and you're just meeting her, you're purchasing a one way ticket to the friend zone.

How old is this girl?
 
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When a girl tells you about her past relationships and you're just meeting her, you're purchasing a one way ticket to the friend zone.
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Meh, some conversation along these lines is pretty normal and expected, and I would even argue a little necessary for a girl to feel like you know her. But this sounds overboard.


Anyway, back to your question-I can't deal with that either, dude. And talking non-stop usually goes hand in hand with stories about people you don't know and may never meet, depressing stories, drama involving girls who've done her wrong.. blech....

No thanks.
 
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It depends on what you want, and what boundaries you want to set. You can definitely get a date with this chick, but she's probably going to be a blabbermouth and totally not-fun to be with. I hate blabbermouths. If you want to bed her, just be prepared to look yourself in the mirror and discover that you are another one of those jerks trying to get her into bed. If you just want a celibate relationship, then go for it.

She talked to you for 3 hours? And told you about her past relationships? She's probably got baggage man, and the fact that she's willing to share it with you so quickly means that she is probably really insecure about the way she feels about herself...
 
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Don't over analyze everything. Maybe she's nervous, maybe she is a little chatty in trying to open you up, maybe she wants you to approve her. Whatever the reason, take your time because you are given the rejection card. Take it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yea Im def gonna tak back control of the situation. I'd hate to mess this up. Guess I'll just see how things go.
One more question-I know most say a lot of txting if bad so what do you do when the girl txts a lot about everyday stuff like school or justa bout anything else?
 
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when it does happen, let her. let her wonder where you are and what you're doing.
 
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ARe you saying just dont reply at all? How does that usually work out? In a good way or do girls get mad if you dont reply?
 
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no, im' not saying that. I'm saying do your own things. You're a busy guy aren't you? let her think about you. let her say "wtf??? this is the first guy who didn't reply to me so fast!" get it?

and who gives a f<ck if she's mad? You're busy doing more important things.
 
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ARe you saying just dont reply at all? How does that usually work out? In a good way or do girls get mad if you dont reply?
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Dude, girls love guys who don't care as much as them. It gives them something to prove to themselves.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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