"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Talking to friend's ex-girlfriend...yes or no?

gravityeyelids

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Okay so i met this girl off tinder...and right off the bat she was talking to me a bunch and told me to text her...replying very fast etc. I realized she was from my hometown and told her that. She asked where I went to high school, i told her (not the same as her). She asked my which class i was....then she asked me if i knew any of the [last name]'s. We'll call the last name Smith for the purpose of this convo

I knew of a few people that went to my high school by Smith, so i told her i had met Katherine Smith...She asked me if i knew nick or taylor Smith. I realized I had partied with Taylor (guy name) several times in high school. He kind of dropped off the map when he got a GF and me and my friends were kind of pissed we lost touch with him.

So i searched this girl on facebook and realized she was the girl who dated taylor, for a few years. Now i've partied with Taylor a few times. I guess i would consider him a friend, and i would certainly say hello if I saw him. However he partied with the same group of friends I did. To be honest I feel weird talking to his ex-GF and trying to get her to sleep with me.

Is this feeling justified or should a just say screw it. I mean people who know each other date each others' ex's frequently...thats how people meet. I know this one girl (a good friend of mine), who's dated 3 of my close friends...and they're all reasonably cool with each other...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Alvafe

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you don't have any contact with this friend of yours, he droped you guys for her, I don't see much friendly convos happening, and hey as long she want to open her to you go ahead, I don't know if hse is worthy to be in a LTR but as long she make you stand ready go for it.
 

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This is just purely my observation as an outsider and what I read but he doesn't really sound like much of a friend. More like a casual acquaintance. I say definitely go for her.
 

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I guess if you've lost contact with him and aren't that close then it should be fair game to date his ex
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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